Hello, everyone. Sorry for the obnoxious title, but this needs to be seen. It's been a while since I updated things in here, so I'm taking the time to do it now. This will be a long post. But I encourage everyone to read it in its entirety. It won't be my fault if you miss things and therefore do not fully understand the new guidelines.

First, I do want to apologize for not being more proactive and engaged here. I've been meaning to do this for a while now, but I've just been so damn busy. I don't usually give out personal information, but just understand that I'm currently working on my PhD., which is incredibly time-consuming and often very stressful. The amount of time, dedication, and work it takes to accomplish is immense. This, along with my family, are my top priorities. These two things will always come before a subreddit I own/run/whatever the hell you want to call it. I hate to always have to point this out, but I do not get paid for the time I put into this subreddit (which is more than many people realize). This is more of a hobby, and a labor of love. I like the fact that I've built a large, objectively popular community for like-minded people to be able to freely express themselves, and perhaps meet others like them. I keep this place going for you all, not myself. I say all this because, if my DMs are any indication, people think this is my life. The amount of entitled, rude, and/or demanding messages I get is almost laughable. So just understand that my time is very valuable and limited, and I'm not at anyone's beck-and-call. If you're respectful and need help only I can provide, I'll do my best to get back to you when I'm able. But I don't always have time. I'm not going to sit around and answer questions the answer to which is readily available if you pay attention. Those of you who have interacted with me on here - especially the couple I've known in real life for quite some time - will tell you I'm a pretty kind, laid-back, easy-going guy. But I never have, nor will I ever be, one to put up with bullshit or rude, pushy people. Period. The Golden Rule rules the day with me.

Next, I want to address the most common inquiries I receive: "What are the posting guidelines?" "Why can't I post?" "I'm [insert age here]. Why are my posts getting deleted?" "How much karma do I need?" First off, the posting guideline refers to your account age, not your actual age. I have no way to verify anyone's age. It's how long your account has been active that matters. And yes, you need karma. I want to see that you have an account that has been active on the platform, and shows you're not spamming, catfishing, or being an asshole. Additionally, having an older account and some amount of karma cuts down on more spam than you realize. I can't stop it all, obviously. But having these guidelines in place is the only reason this subreddit isn't completely overrun. And no, I will not be stating what the guidelines are, specifically. I've done that before, and the spammers just took advantage of knowing what they were to bypass them. Then I had to raise them even higher. It sucks, sure. But it's not without reason. If you're not willing to build a moderately active, established account, then unfortunately, this subreddit may not be for you. I'm trying my best to maintain a community of real people here, and allowing a bunch of throwaway accounts, bots, and spammers makes that untenable. You can maintain your anonymity while still showing you're a real person. It just takes a bit of effort. How bad you want to post here is wholly dependent on you. There will always be spam, I'm sure. But I have to do what I can to mitigate it. Even if that means making it more difficult for new or less active accounts. The feature I used to use to bypass the posting guidelines for people who verify has not been working in some time. I'll try and check it again. If it's once again working, I'll make another post letting people know they can attempt to verify. Just bear in mind I will get A TON of requests if this happens, so there may still be a wait.

Now the elephant in the room and the biggest thorns in my side: OnlyFans, other content sites, and paid services. I'm going to try and make this succinct. If your account promotes or has a content page linked, you will risk being banned. I don't care if it's free. If you're using your account to make money, you're not welcome here. If someone sends me screenshots of you trying to sell shit to them, you'll likely be banned. I've tried to be lenient and it always comes back to bite someone in the ass. I'm sorry if your intentions are pure, but the bad apples have ruined it for everyone. You have to understand that the vast majority of accounts with content linked to them are scams and catfish attempts, and I have neither the time nor patience anymore to differentiate between the ones that are and the ones that aren't. If you want to promote your content, goods or services, you'll need to make another account for that. This is just the reality of it all. This is a money-free subreddit, plain and simple. Again, this is a subreddit for real people in NorCal looking to share and meet for free. I have no problem at all with sex work - this simply isn't the place for it. I will not argue this point.

Onto the new stuff. THIS IS IMPORTANT! ALL posts must follow a new format. First, flair is required. m4f for men seeking women, f4m for the opposite, mf4m for couples looking for men, and so forth. There is flair that already exists for these purposes and everyone needs to use it now. If you're just sharing pics or videos, use flair that denotes that. I mean that. If you're not looking to meet, don't make it seem like you are. That's catfishing - it's both messed up and against the rules. If the flair you need to follow this guideline doesn't exist, message me in Mod Mail and I'll add it. Second, all personals posts must have your age, what you're seeking, as well as your location inside these characters: <>. For example: <Sacramento>. No brackets, no parenthesis, these: <>! Also, all dick pics must have spoiler tags and flair marking it as a dick pic. While I've spoken to many people who do enjoy dick pics, I've heard from many, many others who don't. And while I refuse to outright ban dick pics, I want to try and be considerate of the people who don't want to see them. I'll try and be a bit lenient on all this for the time being, but I will soon be deleting any posts that don't follow these new guidelines. I'll try to put all this in a more visible place soon since I know a lot of people aren't going to read this. Also, I reserve the right to adjust any of this or add more requirements to fit the needs of the subreddit.

On the point of dick pics... really, guys? Like I said, I don't want to unilaterally ban them, but Jesus-titty-fucking-Christ! Some of you are just posting the same damn dick pics over, and over, and over, and over. This is no longer allowed for ANY pics or repeating posts. If I can recognize your damn dick pic as someone who doesn't enjoy dick, I've seen that pic too many times. Change it up! And this is more referring to the super close up, zoomed in dick pics. Honestly, it's really not a good look to most people, even those who do like dick. We shouldn't be able to practically feel the texture of your glans through a picture. Do you know what I mean? Zoom the fuck out! Show more of your body! Be creative! I promise you that you'll have more success doing this than jamming your cock into your phone's camera lens. And this is mostly a problem with the straight guys. Trust me, women and couples appreciate tact and creativity. And most want to see what else you have to offer aside from just a dick. If you expect people to fuck you, you gotta put in some amount of effort. They're going to see the rest of you anyways... unless you flake. But that's a whole different problem that I'm not able to fix in my capacity as a moderator. Another piece of advice: learn to communicate. Don't be an asshole, and don't come right out of the gate too aggressive. I've been into the hotwife/cuckold and stag/vixen dynamic for longer than some of you have been alive. I know for a fact that such couples value effective communication, and very few enjoy a guy that comes right out being a "Dom bull". And single women don't enjoy it any more. Unless they ask for it, it's fucking weird. Unless otherwise stated as part of a specific kink or fantasy, just treat others like human beings and show them you're not a creep or a weirdo. LEARN TO COMMUNICATE! And if you are going to get into some type of couples dynamic, learn about it first. Don't think because you watch some cuckold porn that you have any idea what it takes because you don't. There is much more to these dynamics that you have to learn in order to make it work. Porn is not real life. If you want to have porn-like experiences, you more often than not have to start out just being yourself - regardless of who you intend to fuck. Anyway, I'll end this rant. These are just some things that I've seen all too often, and they really bug me. I promise I'm only trying to help. I know better than most how fun these dynamics can be, but there's ways to go about it. However, if you're just genuinely a creep or a weirdo, then I probably can't help you. You probably need to take a long look in the mirror before you expect to have any sustainable success when it comes to sex, from the internet or elsewhere.

Finally, I'll wrap this up with a few odds and ends. I just want to reiterate some existing rules first. No contact information should be included in your post or comments. That's usually a surefire sign of spams and scams, and I think we all want to prevent those. Exchange contact information in chats or DMs, if that's what you want to do. Just be careful, and vet people thoroughly before giving things like your cell phone number. Next, and this is an important one, do not under any circumstances post identifying pictures of someone else without their consent. This includes faces, tattoos, scars, or anything like that. Really, unless you're a couple's account, you need to be VERY careful if you include someone else in the pics you post. If anything identifying is shown, you MUST specify that you have consent; although I'd prefer you not even do this. It's actually quite illegal in our state, and super fucked up. I won't hesitate to ban anyone who breaks this rule. And bear in mind that anything you post comes at your own risk. And I will always delete something that I'm even slightly unsure about. Also, no arguing, no shit-talking, no trolling, or any other childish behavior. This is an adult subreddit everyone will be held to the standard of an adult. It's literally rule #1. Playful banter is fine. But once it crosses the line into infantile bullshit or petty squabbling, I'll break out the ban-hammer. If you have an issue with someone, let me know, and I'll handle it as best I can.

Lastly (I decided to make a new paragraph so hopefully people with see this... if not, oh well. That's on you for not reading the whole post like I told you too. We're all adults, and are responsible for both our actions and oversights), NO POLICTICS. I don't care what side of the aisle you're on, or if you're dead-center. This is a NSFW subreddit, not a political forum. Political obsessions have always been weird to me, and it's gotten exponentially worse lately. Believe what you want, and express yourself when and where appropriate - that's the joy of being an American. But there's a time and a place for such things, and r/SacramentoGoneWild ain't it. Politicians are supposed to serve the greater good and then move on. They shouldn't have fervent fan-bases like a goddamn band or sports team. It's all become very cultish - both sides. It's weird and petty and I hate it. So keep it the hell out of my fuck-subreddit.

Ok. That's it for now. More updates may be coming in the near future.

Toodles!