It's called being a "SIDE".  Sides do NOT desire anything anal penetrative.  Butts are still beautiful though.  For some men, having to bare a sexual positioning title has been a lifelong challenge.  However, in the Gay lifestyle, men have been virtually forced to place themselves in one of these 2 commonly referred to categories.  Now you don't have to.  Also, uniquely different about being a SIDE is that there is much more emotion desired.  It's not just a sexual positioning combined with wanting to get off.  These are emotional desires that are automatically emphasized rather than just sexual positioning and getting off.  This includes a strong desire to share brotherly empathy, camaraderie and bonding first.  Experiencing these common desired attributes with the man or men that you also relate to sexually.   More specifically for those men who have NO desire to engage in anal penetrative sex with other men.Side emphasizes much of what I'm attempting to describe. Side is a 3rd entity to describe oneself if the question of being a top or bottom comes into conversation. Sides are NOT desirous of top or bottom titles. So this is where the term Sides came from. It is still a VERY EROTIC sexual desire but it is NOT merely focused on sexual positioning titles.Regardless of how you enjoy relating sexually with another man, there is so much more to share and enjoy together that does not refer to getting off specifically. Rather it's the comfort and contentment that it provides could or will eventually evolve into wanting to get off with a like-minded individual. Then the commonality of NOT being interested in certain sexual behaviors and/or methods of getting off together comes into the picture but doesn't create an issue or rejection. Sides do NOT desire anything anal, so they are NOT tops or bottoms. Although the term Side may be relatively new, knowing what it refers to tells me that I have always been a Side. As for all of the male bonding, camaraderie and empathy aspects that I am attempting to described, those characteristics are often commonplace with Sides, much more so than meeting someone and stating whether you are a top or bottom.  Those 2 identities lead directly into sexual positioning as opposed to leading into various empathetic emotional considerations that Sides prefer to emphasize and experience.  Those Side characteristics are vital to many men but they have no idea how to address it. I have NO desire to be sexual with anyone if it is only a meaningless hookup just to get off. I have NEVER desired or pursued that.  Sides prefer quality over quantity.  Does this describe you too?
Being a Side is NOT focused merely on just being sexual.  Rather, it describes emotions and sexual intimacy desires that we share in common. There is a big difference.It's easy to take off your clothes and have sex, people do it all the time.  But opening up your soul to someone, letting them into your spirit, thoughts, fears, future, hopes, dreams .... now that's being naked.Sides desire a feeling of trust and friendship among like-minded compatible people.  A desire to potentially share all kinds of sociable experiences together, in person, ongoing and not just the sexual aspects.  It's a feeling of companionship, comfort, trustworthiness and loyalty not just a way to get your rocks off and potentially be done with each other.  Any form of affection feels that much greater with this clear Sides identity established first. To get off with someone you really enjoy the presence and company of is MUCH more fulfilling than to just seek, find, meet, get off and go your separate ways only to repeat this behavior over and over and over again with the next stranger. Do these considerations apply to you as well?  I'd love to hear from you.  I'm in Los Angeles, CA