Mines are, in order: words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, acts of service, receiving gifts. I think that's because I'm lonely and looking for an extramarital companionship, both emotional and physical.
I need words of affirmation and physical touch to feel desired. Married to someone who's essentially just a roommate, dead bedroom and all, I really need to feel that I'm important to somebody. That I'm needed and wanted.
Quality time is important but less so because I acknowledge our real life obligations. Though I suppose nowadays people can spend quality time conversing online daily. Texts, audio, video. Just to get to know each other and care about one another's daily lives. It's a great way to form a connection.
Acts of service is a nice to have because it shows you care but I understand that's a lot of effort which not everyone can afford. I'm a very understanding and reasonable person. The goal of the relationship isn't to put undue stress on your life. It should be an addition.
And receiving gifts....I'm not materialistic at all because I am financially well off and can buy my own things.
It feels vulnerable to psychoanalyze myself on the internet but there you have it. How do you rank your love languages? I'd like to hear from you if ours are relatively aligned as I was told this is a great way to gauge if people are compatible. Let's see if they're right!
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