Exploring kink can be intimidating. You may not know how to respond. Maybe listening is overwhelming. Expectations and pressure are anywhere. And you're looking for a space where you can be yourself, with a trusted partner in a non-judgmental way. Where you can explore your fantasies that you may be ashamed or embarrassed about. Where someone will still hold you and tell you that it's okay - before, during, and after.

• You may not know how to articulate your desires.

• You may not even know what you want.

• You may know there is more but don't know how to what it is.

• You may feel embarrassed or ashamed of some of your thoughts.

• You may be afraid that you will need time and your partner will be impatient.

• You may be afraid of submitting, essentially trusting, someone to your fullest. You're afraid of getting hurt

• You may not understand why you are attracted to certain kinks or dynamics. You are afraid to find out.

• You may not even know if this is for you. You're afraid you won't be able to hit the panic button. You can - anytime.

• You may think your mind is already a mess and wonder how letting someone in can help.

• You may not know where to start, how to find a Dom that does not confuse dominance with neglect.

To you and in respect of everything I wrote above: It's okay. I'm not here to make you promises or convince you of how great I am at such and such acts. That's for you to discover, explore and judge.

What I can offer are nine years of BDSM experience and promises of communication and work. D/s dynamics are work. They are hard work. Minds are complex and not easy - you may be, 20, 30, 40 years old and try to fathom how many experiences, or mere moments, shaped who you are. That cannot be unpacked and understood in passing. It requires dedication, commitment and work. It requires an understanding of the other person's inquisitive and interpretive approach. How will this person react? What has this person experienced that makes them react this way? Why do they like this so much? Why did they not react as I hoped? What do I change to improve?

I could have written a long-winded story over how I'd explore and how I would touch every part of your body. I am more, much more, interested in your mind. If you think that you would enjoy having your hands tied high above your head, standing in the middle of the room, blindfolded, and the only stimuli being my voice as I explain the fantasies that I came up based on everything I learned about you, changing my voice, not just tone and volume but timing and distance, then I hope you will reach out, regardless of your experience level whether you are experienced or not.

I'm 32, in San Francisco, DDF & COVID free, 6'4". I deliberately did not list my kinks or what I enjoy outside of kink - sometimes I receive answers that fit a little bit too nicely with what I enjoy. This isn't a test with right/wrong answers; but if there was a right answer, it would be to be truthful to yourself and to me. I will not entertain less. After all this, I should probably leave you with some prompts:

1. Why are you browsing BDSMPersonals looking for a Dom?
2. What are your three favorite activities outside of kink and why?
3. What do you think is of utmost importance for a possible partner to know about you and why?