You are married and browsing this subreddit. No judgement, because maybe we're looking for the same thing. Dead bedroom, unappreciative spouse, or that you're lonely and need someone to be a confidant. Whatever the reason, we're responsible for our own happiness, so I'm glad we're similar that way.

Like you I'm lonely, so I'm looking for someone to create happiness with. I want to know you on a deeper level. I want to be the BFF that you've never had. I want to inject positivity into your life and be that sunshine in your day. I want to be your escape and your secret. Everybody can use an escape. Also I love to cuddle, spoon, and make out if chemistry gets us that far. Ideally I'm looking for something ongoing and long term, and hopefully you are too.

I grew up in the bay. I like to exercise and play sports. I live a healthy lifestyle and am passionate about diet and exercise. I like to read and learn, because I'm a nerd. I love puzzles and problem solving. I travel a lot especially for pleasure and have a fair amount of travel stories to share. If you want to be amused, I will routinely send you funny memes to make you laugh. I'm easy going, and will laugh with you as much as laugh at you. You can laugh at me too, I take no offense.

What I'm looking for is someone who understands the intricacies of relationships with married folks, which typically means no cake eaters or single folks. Someone who understands the reality that is a marriage without passion, yet divorce/counseling are not always a panacea. Someone who appreciates that free time away from the SO and family are rare. Someone who is drama free and guilt-free, because it's not about replacing our SO but a cherry on top. It's a world of safe space with just the two of us, with the goal of filling the emptiness in our lives with passion. Someone who knows what they want. I find I get along best with people who have this mature mindset and that's important most of all, so I'm open to race and age. I tend to do well with women who are more submissive and feminine, but not a requirement.

I'm looking for someone local for meetups I'd like to learn what you're looking for, and what your ideal type of man is to see if we may be a match. Hopefully you're interested to learn about me as I would be about you.

So send me a chat and let's see what happens! No expectations no disappointments!