Through lots of exploration in and outside of the bedroom, I'm lucky enough to feel clear about what I want, even if I don't think it's going to be the easiest thing to find: a relationship with someone else who is seeking a balance between a very freaky dom-sub sexual dynamic, and an emotional/romantic relationship that is kind, gentle and highly equitable.

I'm mixed race, multicultural, and originally from the Bay. Attractive with dark features, fair skin, groomed facial hair, tattoos and muscles. 5'8", 150 lbs. Long-distance runner, avid (but unskilled) surfer, gardener, weightlifter, home cook, cinephile, bookworm, Saturday stoner, and an animal lover. I like to think that I balance things pretty well: silliness and seriousness, intensity and easygoing-ness, passion and calm, straightforwardness and kindness; of course, these could be vain delusions, but I'll leave that up to you to decide.

I work in community mental health and care about that a lot, as well as health justice/equity in general. I don't need to meet someone who is super politically informed or an activist or any of that, but being driven by more than status, wealth and living a comfortable lifestyle is kinda important to me. Having a spiritual life is cool, though I'm definitely open to all sorts of expressions of that. Being into doing psychedelics once or twice a year is fun. Finding wonder in the natural world is something that I care about doing together. And of course, pleasure is a value and priority that I want to share.

Bringing my partner pleasure is super important to me, but as someone who can frequently have many orgasms in a row with rough, athletic play, I've found that I have great sexual chemistry with women who enjoy rough doms. Free use and CNC could be fun to explore, and I've enjoyed my experiences with swinging in the past, but it's the D/S dynamic that most turns me on. Of course, in the context of a long-term relationship, you can't expect to only have one kind of sex, so I obviously enjoy and welcome gentle, loving physical intimacy as well; mostly, I want to meet someone who wants to be roughed up and dominated on a semi-regular basis, even though I would never expect that to be the entirety of our sex life.

If any of this is resonating with you, I'd love to talk more. As much as my long-term desires are family-oriented (kids and the like), I'm really not in any rush to meet somebody or get to that stage of life, so it would be cool if you like to move thoughtfully and with patience as well. Until then!

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