I ask because I want to know.

• I want a home filled with peace, stability, and a deep sense of belonging.
• I want a partner outside of the bedroom.
• I want laughter.
• I want eye contact that can't help but turn into a smile.
• I want curiosity about what the world has to offer.
• I want common goals.
• I want deep emotional intimacy.
• I want to provide and receive emotional support through life's highs and lows.
• I want to be able to rely on you and provide you stability.
• I want to grow together and be the best versions of ourselves through encouragement and not criticism.
• I want to fall asleep together and wake up together.
• I want a dog.
• I want to run my fingertips over your skin.
• I want to push back the hair behind your ear.
• I want to listen to your breathing change with every touch.
• I want to feel your goosebumps under my fingertips.
• I want to hear your gasps when I touch you.
• I want to feel you surrender as the tension in your body gives way.
• I want to see you twitch in anticipation of the tease.
• I want to help your thoughts relax, knowing you will be taken care of.
• I want to affirm and praise you.
• I want to hold your face with both hands close to mine.
• I want passion that doesn't rely solely on extremes but on deep emotional trust.
• I want a partner who enjoys submission not as obligation, but as devotion.
• I want to take pleasure in your surrender, and you in my control.
• I want to hold you as you catch your breath.

While I crave control in the bedroom, outside of it, I seek a true partnership - one where we grow together, challenge each other, and build something meaningful. I believe in building a life with your best friend so that is what I am here for. I'm happy to share my list of kinks to see if we are a fit. I'm based in San Francisco, 6'3", gainfully employed with solid health insurance.

This is not about mind games or power for power's sake. It's about chemistry, connection, and a dynamic that fulfills us both. I want someone who desires to be cherished, guided, and sometimes pushed - but never broken.

If any of those resonates with you, let's talk. There is loads more to find out.

PS: I also want someone who appreciates bullet point lists. I posted this originally on the BDSMPersonals sub, so that is what I'm leaning towards.