Returning to the Bay Area after an east coast phase and have the time and energy for a guy who wants to grow his submissive side with a Domme. I'm looking to develop a lifestyle dynamic where we are consistently seeing each other after we established the interest. This doesn't have to be a romantic relationship, though I do have the emotional availability for one. I tend to reserve my capacity for casual/scenes-only play for those already in the local kink scene, and right now I'm prioritizing quality over quantity.

A little about me: I'm a 5'6" mixed brown lady with part black cat energy, part playful creative. Recently moved here for work in a creative field and community engagement takes up a lot of my professional time and personal interests. I'm independent, witty, bold, generous, and my mind and heart are aligned. A lot of my personality revolves around food, such as home-cooking, going out of my way to try new restaurants, distillery tours, and hopefully soon some baking! Very interested in interactive art, performances of any kind, and games in any form (intro me to your fav board game or sport?). Lean a very hard left on the political spectrum and stay in tune with politics and current events.

Here is a preview of my favorite kinks to gauge how compatible we are if these are a main feature in our dynamic:

• orgasm control (my favorite and a must!)
• tease and denial (lots of edging, tempting, denying instant gratification, potentially ruined orgasms)
• objectification (treating you as a plaything/pet/himbo/personal porn star)
• training (giving you tasks and goals so you can show me you're a good boy, rewards and punishments depending on how you do)
• anal play and toys in general (pegging, plugs, vibrating cock rings, remote-controlled devices)
• light bondage (just enough so you can't do anything while I edge you 💕)
• sensation play (blindfolds, headphones, anything that heightens your senses)
• light humiliation (getting you flustered about your own desires and what I make you do for me)
• light primal play (collar, leash, harness, primal instincts)

Some curiosities I would be excited to do but are completely optional:

• advanced rope (willing to train further in shibari and more complicated rope bondage)
• behavior training (having you develop everyday patterns that please me)
• hypnosis (similar to behavior training but more psychological)
• skill training (directing you to learn or seek instruction for certain skills I like, such a cooking, massage, playing an instrument)
• domestic service (cleaning, cooking, repairs)
• light switching (you as gentle yet lustful boyfriend energy, me as teasing brat who always gets a reaction out of you)
• light primal play (i'll enjoy teasing the feral instincts out of you until you decide to do something about it 😈)

Some things about you I hope for:

I'm looking for a queer/bi/pan man or straight guy who likes trans women (a must, please signal to me that you've read this!). I enjoy playing up the difference between men's outer lives as a masculine, dominant man and their private lives where they are still masculine but submissive. I'm good at creating a safe space for vulnerability since I know many men don't have that in their lives to express themselves and work through emotions and identity related to traditional masculinity. Not looking to make a man's man or to feminize you, just help you engage more authentically with these topics in a hot and safe way!

Consistency, honesty, and earnestly working on opening up and being vulnerable is a must. I will assume you are a good communicator and expect you to be upfront if you struggle with communication, vulnerability, or being present. I'm open to unpartnered left-leaning men ages 25-45 who are fully vaccinated and actively working on themselves (regular exercise and therapy are big pluses). Please be in walking distance of BART/MUNI and/or willing to regularly travel to Oakland.

If you've gotten this far and are still interested, congrats on passing the first filter! To pass the next one, send me a message with the following:

1. Name, age, location, a little bit of biographical information and what your day-to-day looks like
2. Your experience with kink of any kind and what parts of your submissive self are you looking to grow or discover
3. Confirming you read my kink list and you believe we are compatible. Bring up any dealbreaker kinks you don't see listed. Acknowledge that we will put aside sex and kink talk until we've met each other a couple of times
4. Tell me about your non-kink interests, hobbies, goals, obsessions, curiosities. Would love to hear what's on your Spotify playlists, streaming queue, or restaurant bucket list
5. At least one SFW picture of you (shirtless is okay and appreciated but not required). If you don't want to completely reveal yourself in your opening message, you can crop off the top half of your face so I'm still able to see if I'm interested. I will respond with a picture of myself and we can verify after

I appreciate that you took the time to read about me, looking forward to meeting you ✨