And I would know. The dating apps have been pretty kind to me, but I’m here to tap on a different audience.

Genuinely looking for men to hang out with, ideally those in their 30s, with similar interests, or willing to explore cool new stuff.

I’m a foodie, a tea faux connoisseur, and am absolutely obsessed with kitties. Looking for someone who lives in the city properly so we can hang out, especially because this is a fantastic month with loads of live events happening. I love going to plays, free concerts, or chilling at the park. I’m a Whovian and am a little bit too obsessed with TikTok.

On the average day, you can find me pounding out a one-pager that’s 60 pages long or at Sephora. There is no in between.

Writing this all out, I actually see what folks say about me being “bougie”. I’m a product of where I was raised, and learning to shake that off. Let me live in denial, please.

Fun things I’ve done over the past few weeks: - my very first EDM street fair just a couple days ago - mocktails at bougie places, where I’ve gained a reputation for going too often in the same outfits - plays in the park - so many coffee places, and I don’t even bloody like coffee - hangouts at malls - charcuterie board picnics (was fun, love cheese)

To be very clear, I’m looking for something medium-term (max a year?) with people who can communicate well and know what the hell they want or don’t want. I compartmentalise well, and I don’t look kindly upon attempts at obfuscating what we are. I love check-ins and DTR talks. It’s easier to escalate from friends to more, than it is the other way around.

We’re also both working professionals in our chosen careers, so let’s both have respect for each other’s time and effort. Don’t call me up at freaking 2am for a booty call and ghost me 30 mins later. My skincare routine and sleep schedule is hella important to me, and I need to schedule these things a few days in advance.

Types: I’m a Southeast (not South) Asian BBW. 5’4. Reviews say I have “great feminine energy”, am warm, confident, and assertive. My personal physical preference tends to be pretty, tall, lanky men who are either white, Latino, or Middle Eastern with good grooming, a nice beard, a chiselled jaw, and a bombastic leather jacket. They need to be prettier than me because our potential kids need them good genes from someone.

If you’ve read this far, send me a sfw face pic with your age, location, and ethnicity. Not that the latter matters much since my type is forever expanding, but I’d love to know your cultural background as that’s what makes a person. Low-effort messages that don’t meet this will be ignored.