Have you ever had a hug where there is a light squeeze and intimate, that mental bond transcends into a physical connection and our whole body relaxes? I am in search of that. Ideally in a romantic relationship.

Hi 👋 I am a 34 year old single straight East Indian guy in the South Bay. I am 5'6" and hwp. This is me - https://imgur.com/a/XUni9cz https://imgur.com/a/iPXNBPN

I am an Engineer and work in tech. I am also a trained Chef and love experimenting in the kitchen. I like to hike and backpack(obviously we are in California 😀). I like to paint as well. I like hanging out with my friends and my cat. My humor varies from bad puns to dark-ish sarcasm.

I am looking for a deeper connection, hopefully long-term. I would like a relationship, and eventually (if everything works out) marriage. Yes I said that out loud 😀 I want to start with giving and receiving attention, but also be there for each other with intention.

I am kind, honest and big on open communication. Some of the things important for me in a partner (I bring these things to the table and I think they are very important part of a relationship) : - Emotionally aware and capable of self regulation with support from me. Ideally you talk to a therapist or have in the past, or grew up in an emotionally secure surroundings. - Healthy communication habits even when things are tough and uncomfortable. No silent treatment, no expecting mind-reading etc... - Wants a long-term relationship and willing to put in the time & effort for that. I want all the fun, flirty, light moments as well along with the deep bond, but no chasing games please. I want both of us to come with partnership as intention and not with "let's see if he takes initiative all the time" kind of tests. - Physical safety and intimacy is as important as the mental intimacy. I want both, but I am not willing to jump into bed hastily because we have one amazing date. I want this spark to last a lifetime and not burn brightly just for a day. - Willing to share her story, and is invested in listening to mine. When someone is letting me see her, and shows interest in getting to know me, I feel attracted to that person. - Someone who celebrates different human beings. Is not overly religious. I support all marginalized groups, I believe government should not interfere in human decisions; For a country with religious freedom, religion has no role in any branch of the government. - And is an amazing hugger. Physical touch is very important to me. - Someone who is willing to intentionally slow down and not because of a burnout. I want us to enjoy our lives in all ways... Work our asses off, having relaxing Sunday mornings, take spontaneous weekend trips, go to a tropical beach and not do anything for days, go explore food, cook together...

I believe small talk is very underrated. Among other things, I definitely want to know about your day, what your favorite snack is, I want to listen to your vents, I want to know what made your day special... Maybe we can start there.

If this piqued your interest, or made you curious about me, send me a message or chat. Please put some thought and effort into it, "hi", "nice post", "still looking" etc will not elicit response from me.

Hope to hear from you