Anyone deeply entrenched in the world of kink knows there are more established places to meet people. Local venues and community meeting places where a connection is sought and found. However, the veterans of those groups are much like actors who perform a predictable role, and there reaches a point where their behavior is scripted and cliché.

So, here I am, looking for new opportunities elsewhere. And more importantly, looking for someone who is relatively new (or less experienced than they would prefer to be), and someone who is interested in experimenting but hasn’t, as of yet, for whatever reason. Someone who wants to learn, ideally open to having some fun, and wants to find a less intense pathway into a world of kink that can go as deep or as intensely as you’re willing to accept. And to be clear, what I’m describing is not always about sex or sexual deviance. But none of us would be here, reading and responding to kink-oriented communities, if that wasn’t part of the equation either.

Who am I? I’m a 43 yo white working professional, 6’3”, 230, fit, clean, workout 6x a week, well traveled, and in search of someone who could handle a conversation on Nietzsche’s criticisms of religion, Foucault’s theory of knowledge, or just as well as handle 5-10 rounds of screaming their lungs out as they become a sobbing hormonal mess. I’m happy to share other details, too, if you’re so inclined to ask.

So, who are you? Age and race are unimportant. Religion and politics, while we may have differences, that’s only a dealbreaker if you’re unable to imagine a world different from your own way of thinking. A healthy libido and an interest in fitness, however, absolutely help. But I don’t have a cookie cutter checklist of things you should look like or ways you should behave, other than someone who has an open mind and the curiosity to explore. I’m sure there are varying degrees of nuance and some differences between us, too. And maybe that could create some exciting tension and opportunity to learn more from each other as well.

I’ve also been told some of what I seek is “too broad” or “vague”, but that’s entirely the point: chemistry comes in all shapes and sizes, and recognizing that we find ourselves attracted to different people for different reasons is inherently part of the struggle of finding compatibility with others. Anyway, being draconian with expectations isn’t exactly sexy or endearing either. Sometimes you just don’t know if there is chemistry until you hang around someone long enough to feel what is right.

In the meantime, if you made it this far, I appreciate your patience and interest. And if anything resonates, kindly drop a line. Perhaps include your favorite CNC thought or whatever else inspires you to send me a message. I’ll be happy to do the same. Thanks!