Like the title says I’m looking for a FWB. I’ve had some success with Tinder in the past, but there’s always the issue of navigating the whole “what exactly are you looking for” aspect so I thought I’d give Reddit a try so we can both avoid the ambiguity. I’m not looking for a relationship, but I’m also not looking for no strings attached one off encounters. I like to connect with the person I’m with, be able to have conversations, laugh together, and actually enjoy each other’s company regardless of the state of our clothing. So take a minute (or several, sorry for the novel I’ve written here haha) to read, and see if you think we’d be a match.

I’m 42 years old, 5’11”, 170lbs, white with blue eyes, lean, and in decent shape. I take care of my mental, and physical health including STI testing. I’m educated, employed, successful, no addictions, and no restraining orders haha. I’m single, no kids, work from home, and mostly set my own hours so I have a flexible schedule. I have my own place near the Metreon/Yerba Buena part of SOMA.

I’m an easygoing person, engaging, conversational, fun to be around, and have an eager to laugh sense of humor. I value open communication, and respect. In my free time I love going to live events like music, sports, standup, theater, and festivals. I really enjoy exploring new places around the city for food, and drinks. At home I love to cook, watch movies, binge tv series, and find fun things to pass the time. I enjoy craft beer, fancy cocktails, good wine, and occasionally cannabis, and entheogens. I don’t smoke cigarettes.

When it comes to sex I don’t have any particular kinks, but I have too many stories to call myself vanilla. I enjoy most things especially if my partner is into it. The only things I can’t get into are anything violent, or degrading. It’s just not in my personality. I’m confident, but not overly aggressive. I like women who are assertive in communicating what they like, and what they want. I’m comfortable in the lead, but also enjoy a woman who can take the reins sometimes. I have a strong sex drive. I’m sensual, and passionate when the chemistry is there to support it. I enjoy all of the little things that lead up to, and make sex amazing. I tend to be playful. I’ve been called a tease, but it’s always accompanied with a smile. I’m not selfish, and need my partner to be comfortable, and enjoy herself as much as I do.

Who am I looking for? The most important thing is that I like women who can hold up their side of the conversation. Clearly I’m not short on words. Age doesn’t matter too much. 30-ish to 50-ish is generally where I date, but those aren’t hard limits. No one really has it all put together, but I’m looking for someone who at least has the veneer of a functioning adult. You don’t need to have a perfect body, but you should have a body that you take care of. I prefer to be around people who believe that kindness, and perspective matter in life. It’s important to me to find someone who is uninhibited when it comes to life, communication, and sex. It would be great if you were more of a night owl, otherwise be prepared for me to keep you up well past your bedtime. I don’t care if you are single, but I’m not interested in anyone pursing something behind their partner’s back. My drama reservoir is at capacity so no shady dealings.

Well if you made it this far congratulations. You’ve unlocked level 2!! Check out my profile for a face pic (clearly burying the lede haha). If this sounds/looks like something for you, say hello, and share a photo of yourself. We can grab a drink to break the ice, and take it from there.