I'm an talented Dominant with over a decade of experience and I'm looking to cultivate an ongoing D/s dynamic with a submissive.

About me

I'm educated, patient, persistent, stable, smart, twisted, ethical, methodical, thorough, well-read, deviant, a bit scruffy, and (I like to think) pretty funny.

By day, I'm the head of technology at a software startup in the Bay Area. By night, I'm usually asleep. (Because I'm a responsible adult, and good sleep is crucial to tirelessly tormenting you.)

I'm white, HWP, and fit (I lift and exercise multiple times per week.) I have piercing blue eyes, long brown hair, a beard, and a fondness for the Oxford comma. (Pretty Jesus-lookin' overall.)

My main goal in domination is to make you cum harder and longer than you've ever come before.

Getting to that point requires taking the time to really get to know you. It requires digging deep to trace the roots of your dark desires and following your twists and turns until I find just right spot to press my weight.

I'm not in any rush. I'll give you the time, stability, and reassurance to feel safe expressing and inhabiting and cultivating your intense inner erotic energy. And then I'll exploit what we've learned to provide endless adult entertainment and to leave you a squirming, satisfied mess.

And then I'll crack a dumb joke, and then get right back to making you cum (again, and again, and again.)

My kinky interests and skills are pretty broad:

• Unsurprisingly, I like domination, discipline, and protocol. This can extend outside the bedroom - I'm quite good at and enjoy helping women make and stick to plans to achieve difficult long-term goals.
• I'm pretty into degradation / humiliation (but it's not mandatory.) I particularly love the way a girl looks when she's both embarrassed and about to cum.
• I'm pretty clearly a Pleasure Dom. With me, you're going to cum a lot (but only when I tell you to.)
• I'm a mild sadist -- mostly I enjoy the part where I leave pretty marks to remind you where I've been.
• I'm objectively pretty smart and professionally successful (think I'm boasting? Come match wits and find out!)
• I enjoy mentoring women and feeling like I'm a constructive presence in your life (beyond the obviously positive corruption and degradation I provide.)
• I'm generally kind of ridiculous. I was a comedian in college and unfortunately for you I still think I'm hilarious. So you'd better have a sense of humor (otherwise you're really not going to like it when I edge you by making jokes when you just want me to shut up and let you orgasm.)
• For me, the physical side of kink is mostly subordinate to the mental. But I've got a well-stocked toybox full of paddles, floggers, whips, plugs, gags, vibrators, hoods, and rope. (Ask me about the fuck saw!)
• My interests outside of kink are also pretty broad - I'm very into philosophy, technology/software, AI (and AI art), statistics, history, comedy, politics (world, national, and these days mostly local), economics and political economy, video and board games, and (more recently) pharmacologically-enhanced spirituality.
• I know a bit about a lot of things and enjoy teaching you weird factoids and sending you brain-fried memes after making you cum.

About You:

I like smart, ambitious, curious, kinky women. I'm looking for someone who basically has her life together, but is maybe just a bit too buttoned up and needs someone to rip off that button-down blouse and help her shamelessly discover and express her inner raging slut.

Maybe you're smarter than your boss, and you wonder what it would be like, just once, to take orders from a more intelligent man.

Maybe you are the boss and you die a little bit every time the boys in your life do exactly what you tell them instead of raising the black flag and slitting throats.

Maybe you're stuck in a milieu that places constant, incessant demands on how you should act, how you should look, how you should think.

Maybe you're just a little less satisfied with the normal than your colleagues or classmates.

Maybe you're surrounded by people who won't accept who you really are.

Maybe you're entrapped in your own conscience that's constantly trying to constrict and contort you into the shape that your upbringing or your religion or your family or your culture or community tells you that you must be.

Maybe you wake up every morning, look at your partner in bed and touch yourself while thinking of someone else and vividly imagining all the depraved things that someone else would do to you.

Maybe you've got a fire inside (maybe a very dark fire) that you're tired of suppressing and are ready to let rage.

Maybe you've been thinking about this for years and just now finally ready for someone to show you that bad girls do, in fact, have much more fun.

I will delve deep enough into your mind to find the real "you", the primal animal essence that you've bricked over with layer after layer of inhibition. I will break your seal, and I will build a space for us where you can learn who you really are and how to access and embrace your true self.

You have been bound too long by the burden of having to make your own choices. I will set you free.

And then make you cum, over and over and over.

What I'm Looking For:

I live in the East Bay, just outside of San Francisco. I'm looking for someone who's interested in getting to know each other and playing, ideally on an ongoing basis. Also ideally looking for someone interested in going to kinky events (e.g. rope classes), but that's optional (or something we can build up to if you're shy.)

Online dynamics can be fun with the right person, but I'm only open to online if we're building towards eventually meeting up. I can fly you to California as needed.

Flirting and buildup are fun, so you'd better have a talented tongue and be more than just basically literate.

I like being able to make a positive impact in your life, so I click particularly well with people on the verge of some major life transition, e.g. students about to graduate or women considering a new career.

Also, just to put it out there now in case it's a dealbreaker: you should know that I am ethically non-monogamous.

And that's me! Let's meet and have a wildly irresponsible amount of fun.

Send me a message and let's see where things go.