Dear reader,

I’m begging you - please don’t message me until you’ve read and understood the whole post. Horny-dumb messages addressing me as sir or that completely miss the service element or location requirements will be ignored.

I’m a genderqueer, ethnically non-monogamous 42yo AMAB dominant. I’m an avid cook and baker, multi-instrumentalist, singer-songwriter, audio engineer, woodworker and tinkerer. All that is to say, I’m rarely bored or boring and very good with my hands. I’m 5’11” (actually), have absolutely average endowment, and really enjoy fucking with gender, be it roles, leggings or heels. I also find it really gratifying to provide safe space for submission, gender non-conformity and any other versions of existing authentically.

To make this difficult though, I genuinely dislike video games, CGI superhero movies and most of popular culture. Definitely some curmudgeon with a heart of gold vibes here.

I’m looking for a service-oriented, masochistic, submissive Good Girl ™. Age is not particularly important, but it is essential that you know and can articulate your wants and needs, even if you’re still exploring. It’s also really important that you respond to all my questions when I ask several. I’m not into repeating myself.

Without getting into relationship escalators, my long term hope is to find someone close that I can create a beautiful long-term power exchange dynamic with. In between now and then though, I’m open to exploring a lot.

I am happy to go at whatever pace feels safe and good for both of us. I am looking for someone that needs to serve others both sexually and domestically, feels fulfilled having their clothing (or lack thereof) chosen for them. You should enjoy or want to explore chastity, orgasm denial, edging, bondage of all sorts, impact play and the gorgeous intersection of tenderness and sadism that I have to share. Breath play, mummification, behavior modification, and so much more is also on the table.

You need to be in/near Santa Cruz or excited to come here regularly as part of your service. It is a truly gorgeous and magical place. I’m happy to talk online initially and I don’t mind coming to you on occasion if there’s good reasons, but this is an in-person, predominantly in-my-home situation.

I want to put you through very difficult situations and tell you how proud I am of you.

Intelligence is sexy. Ability to hold a conversation is sexy. A dark sense of humor is sexy. Self-sufficiency is sexy. Being able to think for yourself is sexy. Life experience is sexy. Surrendering control and having your collar jingle as you do chores with a plug inside you and ankle irons on is very, very sexy.

I look at power exchange as an actual exchange, and I don’t just mean that as I get to spank you and you get to be spanked. I want to create order, rituals and accountability in your life. You want to serve and feel a sense of purpose, be that through physical suffering, mental privation or washing dishes at a party where you’re wearing latex and gagged the whole time.

So again, please read this whole posting and write me something thoughtful and interesting.