Looking for someone else seeking out a meaningful relationship in all of the wrong places.

I'm a mixed-race guy who works in community health, spends a lot of time outdoors, enjoys being physically active, and is inclined towards some non-vanilla stuff between the sheets. I have dark hair, dark eyes, fair/light tan skin, groomed stubble, tattoos, and seem to get a decent amount of attention on dating apps...as much as I do not enjoy being on them. 5'8", 160 lbs. Muscled build (broad shoulders, defined chest, strong arms, an endurance athlete's lower body). Mostly attracted to women and have only ever been in relationships with women before, but I have some physical attraction to guys, and it's something I'd enjoy exploring together with one another.

Equal parts adventurous exploratory outdoorsy type and cozy homebody. Like to think that I balance being silly and being a bit intense and serious pretty well. Love surfing, trail running, communing with the plant and animal worlds (I just mean hanging out with them...nothing too new-agey going on over here, lol), watching artsy films, exploring new places to eat, reading, gardening, and health/fitness in general. Both enjoy getting into the weeds of ideas/feelings/experiences, and just being silly, stupid and/or quiet together.

Into some kinkier things (D/S play, and playing with other couples or guys together, more than anything) but most concerned about meeting someone with whom I can laugh, share values and build a nurturing and equitable partnerships. For me, a meaningful relationship could either be something more traditional and "serious," or a FWB relationship; my priority is sharing a sincere connection, showing each other consistent respect, and communicating openly. No unspoken assumptions, mind-reading attempts or taking things for granted please!\

With the right person, I might be willing to compromise on the finer details of the relationship arrangement we pursue. That said, here are some things that I don't want to compromise on:

Intention to settle somewhere around here, even if it isn't the Bay Area proper

Interest in enjoying the outdoors and being physically active together

Openness to kids

At least some interest in having more than a completely vanilla bedroom together

Would be great if you were also a POC or mixed (I say that because I know some white-passing mixed people don't ID as POC) and queer (I am)...but those aren't necessarily deal-breakers for me. If you are a white person with no meaningful relationships with non-white people, however, it might be a bit tough for us to bond.

Okay, that's it for now : ).

(Me: https://imgur.com/a/TQbp2uu )