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SDAM and attachment style
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Just joined as, after yet another tinderbox romance, I'm wondering if my poor autobiographical memory is feeding into my attachment issues? I'm fairly insecure when triggered, and I particularly struggle in the early stages, which is largely contributed to by the fact that I forget people and experiences we've had, really quickly. So, I assume they forget me too, and this triggers me to panic I'll be abandoned unless I spend time with that person. In all honesty, it turns me into a basket case 😳 albeit this is usually short lived.

Can anyone else relate? I've known about SDAM for years, after I took part in a research study on it. I'm now wondering if I can do anything to improve my autobiographical memory and mitigate this issue.

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I absolutely relate to this. I'm a compulsive texter which is hard when I'm in a relationship with someone who's more avoidant, but I'm slowly learning that he doesn't forget me or forget his feelings for me just because we aren't messaging a million times a day. My abandonment issues run deep, and I suspect my SDAM was originally a protective mechanism to be able to cope with being emotionally abandoned as a baby

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