Bonus points if you have seen 'The New Girlfriend', it’s a French film which will give you an idea of who I am hoping to find. I'm searching for that rare gem who can embrace vulnerability while exploring unconventional norms. The closest I have seen anyone accurately describe it is finding someone who wants to be “girlfriends” just as much as they also want to have a BF/GF relationship.

I am seeking something more lasting and fulfilling with a reciprocal soul who shares my passions. Kindness, trust...being genuine are things I can offer. I want to be that best friend you can confide in, have silly jokes with, witty banter, learn endlessly from one another, someone to make memories with, and be that forever safe space.

As far as interests go: enjoy hockey, nerdy things, boring dry period pieces, going to the gym several times a week, Jane Austen, scary movies, sour things, and jalapeños. Going for walks with the pets, thrifting, repurposing things, volunteering. Meaningful, deep conversations and learning from one another are yum to me. Die Hard is definitely a Christmas movie, fight me. Probably use far too much makeup and even more hairspray. I am gainfully employed and working on improving myself in various areas. Definitely still on a journey of finding myself but wouldn’t mind some company along the way.

Because I am looking for an actual adult relationship that includes shared interests, I am open to discussing more personal info once compatibility has been established. I am looking for my person who shares similar passions without feeling judged or shamed. With that said I am not the sum of all my niche interests. I prefer to live on the left side of the slash for those who are so inclined.

Communication and mutual respect are important to me. My hope is to find someone who is genuinely attracted to me and desires all of me, not just the that part of me. Seeking someone local only. Please be at least 35?

I attempted to make a sincere effort describing a bit about myself so low effort replies will be ignored. I am definitely not interested in anyone who is married, in a relationship, unavailable, simply seeking a hookup or someone to play with online. I do not want to be someone’s backup plan, emotional affair, or GFE. I am not interested in anyone with a dead bedroom situation, disapproving wife or GF, etc. I am not here to help you explore or get off. At the end of the day I simply want to love and be loved. I don’t want a love I will have to beg and plead for, much less with someone who will never want me in the way I want them.

Love without fear or shame has always been the goal. I have never had an entirely truthful, honest, meaningful relationship in which I could be myself, love and be loved the way I wanted and the way I know it should and can be.

Thank you for reading my post. If you believe you are a potential actual match, lets start a conversation. We can always meet for coffee or maybe hit the gym together. I have memberships at 2 different clubs. Dating apps do not really seem to work for me as I do not seem to fit into any of the categories or parameters they offer despite openly and clearly advertising who I am and who I am seeking.

“One of my greatest fears is I will die without finding a single soul who knows what to do with all this fire behind my eyes.”

• Cindy Cherie