I know myself very well. Who I am and what I am looking for. If this post feels overly structured for you, that probably means we aren't compatible.

My goals and values (in order)

1. Romantic connection; I am committed to this as my unwavering top priority in life.
2. Philosophical truth
3. Helping others
4. My mental/physical health and well-being

Please note some things that are extremely import to most people, but are missing from my list. I do not value material ambition, social status, or travel.

My ideal relationship

• Primarily focused on establishing and growing an intense emotional and intellectual romantic connection together
• I need a highly intelligent partner who is intellectually curious about me and existence
• I need an emotionally self-aware partner who is deep, vulnerable, passionate, and loving
• Incredible and open communication, a true desire to understand each other, work through every issue and point of disconnect, and build lasting trust
• Sex is a physical medium for expressing emotion, it's not the point of the relationship and it has limitations. I don't want my relationship to be centered around sex, but I do want sex to be an important part of sharing our affection and exploring our emotions together.
• I'd like my partner to be dominant and to love/accept me for being submissive. I'd prefer this to be as close to a 24/7 TPE as possible within reason, but only to the extent it serves our connection. It should never be forced, or an act.

My ideal partner

• Looks are not especially important to me as long as you own your appearance and aren't ashamed of yourself. It is only a problem if your insecurities make it more difficult for me to love you.
• Focused on romance as their top priority in life, no exceptions.
• Does not have children and does not want children (see: bullet point above for reason)
• Weird, different, an outcast. I do not get along with normal people. They're boring and shallow. I find I often get along better with people who have suffered or do suffer form mental health issues of various kinds as long as you are mature and have self-control.
• I don't want a partner who is just dabbling with being dominant but is truly a switch/submissive at heart. It doesn't work, I've tried it. You have to want to wield power over me because you want to possess me, because you love me and find me beautiful. I'm not interested in being tickled by a dominatrix as a hobby, I want our power exchange to be driven by a deep and honest need.
• Very intelligent and philosophical. Loves learning and is great at communicating their thoughts and emotions. Wants to discuss/converse frequently.

Myself

• Slim build, average height, Caucasian, mildly androgynous
• Interested in romance, philosophy, fantasy, art, science, sexuality, games, and arthropods
• Introverted, doesn't like to travel, doesn't like to party, doesn't drink or smoke
• Kinks: Limitless and based entirely on our unique psychological symbolism we develop together. Some that I have enjoyed in the past include pet play, pegging, bondage, body worship. I'm not afraid to go darker and dirtier, but it has to make sense for us. I don't force fetishes and do not consider my partner a kink dispenser.
• No formal education, no specified career path, no financial ambition, no debt, I work as needed and do not long for material things
• INFJ 4w5
• Very caring, loving, emotionally sensitive and available
• Submissive, giving, doting, worshipful, dedicated. I am capable of giving more love than anyone else you will ever meet. It's what I am designed for and it is what I've spent my life cultivating.

Deal breakers

• You want a traditionally masculine male
• You expect me to support you financially
• You believe all women are inherently superior to all men
• You're passionate about money, travel, luxury, status, etc.
• You assume I should submit to you automatically without knowing you first
• You just want someone to share your life with but have no intention of aggressively growing your romantic connection

Summary

I'm not your typical "subby boy." I'm not sex focused. I am connection focused. I'm serious about finding a life partner and I'm willing to make any sacrifice necessary to be with the right person. It takes time to get to know me, so please just talk to me and be patient. Let's explore our potential chemistry and compatibility together. Please message me.