Maybe you've found it?

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Name: Jace

Age: 30

What I'm Looking For: Long term romance, but we should be friends first, right?

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Bio

It's ya boi, comin' at you with that freeform bio because attempted humor deflects the crippling anxiety of trying to make myself sound interesting!~ Do you like bullet points? I like bullet points. Here are some bullet points!

• INFJ - Deep/intense emotions; I try to be very transparent and genuine, and tend to have strong feelings about things, some people find that off-putting
• Nerdy boi - Games, anime, tech, and more; ask if you're curious
• I <3 Art - Do you draw, paint, write, or create? I like you already. :)
• Teddy Bear - 5'9", brown hair, green eyes, pale skin, some muscle but also a tummy; I'm told I'm great to hug on cold nights :3

Seriously though, I'm pretty shy but I'll probably end up talking to you until 5am once I'm comfortable. :) I think a lot - about everything - and feel very deeply about things as a result. I've found this can make some people feel uncomfortable, but I'm not interested in hiding how I feel either. After all, I don't gain anything from hiding it - if anything, I'm just hurting myself! But that doesn't mean I'm not reserved about certain things. I guess what I'm saying is I try to be as transparent and genuine as possible. I'm not going to force my feelings on you, but if you ask about something I'm likely not going to give you a platitudinous answer either.
Now that that's out of the way, I also have several hobbies (more bullet points!):

• Tabletop RPGs - I'm part of an actual play D&D podcast and I run a Numenera campaign.
• Homelabbing - I like to do experiments and hone my skills. Hello, r/homelab!
• Writing - I don't do this so often anymore, but I like writing stories. Or even retelling events in more artistic fashion.
• Collecting - Again, haven't worked on this for a while, but I do plan on picking it up again
• Japanese - I've been casually studying the language for the last 2 years

Other than that? My surface-level default is to be silly and to make people laugh (which I enjoy!), so I love memes, stupid videos, and references. I will 1000% quote Arrested Development, send reaction gifs at every opportunity, use kaomoji in most of my texts (because they cute!), share every thing that makes me laugh and wheeze, make self-deprecating jokes and explain the random hypotheticals my brain comes up with, and send periodic meme dumps of all the gems I've collected. :)

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Why role reversal?

Genuine and unsolicited compliments? Yes. Hugs? Yes. I can be a little spoon? Yes. Forehead kisses? Very yes. Holding me near your heart with my head nestled under your chin? Can I stay here forever? Asking me about my day and talking to each other for 3 hours while we unpack my feelings, all while you're just holding me, listening patiently, and being super supportive? Holy fuck I can't stop crying because you're the most wonderful, beautiful, amazing person in the world and I just love you so much I'm sorry I'm rambling but thank you so much let me please give you a massage and cook you dinner or something...

I'm independent. I can lead. I'm a strong person. All out of necessity. Those aspects of me are very real, but they're not my preference and it's exhausting to maintain. I've always felt more fulfilled in a support role, and RR really exemplifies this. Strong women (physically, mentally, or otherwise!) have always held my admiration and I would gladly submit to the right one. Push my buttons, assert your affection, overpower me (physically or mentally) - convince me I don't have to be strong for myself anymore. And I will melt. And I'll be yours. <3

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Who I'm Looking For

Preferably someone near my age and geographic region if you're also considering a long-term relationship. If you're really interested in me and you don't meet those criteria, then feel free to reach out and I'll try to keep an open mind. Just know that I'm where I need to be right now.

I'd love for you to take the reins in the relationship. Not because I can't, but because I'm that much happier when I focus my efforts on trying to bring the people I care about (read: you!) joy through my own strengths. And know that no matter what, when push comes to shove, I've got your back and will fight for you gladly.

Beyond that, I'm always super appreciative of the things people do to show they care. Again, I think a lot about everything so they usually won't go unnoticed. But more than anything, I have a love of touch. It's embarrassing to talk about, but I'm also a bit hypersensitive and a small, tender, emotional touch will s e n d me.
Finally, let me just close with this: RR is a state of mind. You don't necessarily need to be buff or have an iron will. What I admire, truly, is strength of character. Be yourself. You'll probably get a lot farther than you think. <3