Hey all! I’m somebody who realised a long time ago that traditional gendered relationship dynamics don’t work for me- I don’t find the idea of prowling around a bar, buying women drinks, and trying stupid pickup lines on them remotely appealing. In fact, I’d much rather be the one hearing the stupid pickup lines. Both physically and personality-wise, I lean far more feminine than the average man: I have shoulder length brown hair, shave both my face and body, paint my nails, moisturise, generally carry myself more delicately, and enjoy wearing skirts sometimes. I’m also on the shorter side, at around 5’6. I’m rather emotionally expressive, and try to be a caring, nurturing presence in the life of my partner. I’ll happily listen to my darling’s problems, offer cuddles when they’re sad, give shoulder massages, and so forth, while being openly emotionally available myself. I’ll cry openly at films that affect me, and ask for cuddles when I’m feeling blue.

In turn, assertive women who aren’t afraid to take the lead in the relationship really appeal to me. I love both feminine women, and more outwardly butch ones, but certain indicators of you being the “man” in the relationship are something that really resonate with me; putting an arm around my shoulder in public, holding the door for me, pulling me in for kisses whenever you want, placing orders for us at restaurants, handing me your jacket if I start getting cold, picking out clothes you’d like me to wear, maybe even being a little possessive at times? Once we’ve become a little familiar with each other, slightly condescending nicknames (ie. princess) are preferred, lol. But of course, I don’t expect my partner to be a clump of stone who performs conventional masculinity at all times! First and foremost I’d like a real relationship, where we mutually respect and support each other.

Personality-wise, I’m outwardly rather nerdy, shy, and introverted. With people that I’m close to though, I’m generally very bubbly and chatty, with a good sense of humour IMO. I’m generally rather indoorsy, enjoying reading (mostly nonfiction), watching TV/documentaries, and gaming. However, I’m by no means a total shut-in; I’ll happily go for long walks in nature, or visit museums, or historical landmarks with you. I adore long, aimless walks in the sun! I definitely benefit from somebody who is a little more extroverted than myself, who can take a leadership role and bring me out of my shell. I graduated from university in July, and am currently looking for employment while living with my friend.

My main requirement for prospective partners is that you live in the UK; super long-distance doesn’t personally work for me. I’m currently based in Glasgow, but I definitely don’t mind taking the train to see you, as long as the travel time isn’t more than five hours or so, as I’d like to be able to see you regularly for cuddles. I don’t personally want to date anyone younger than 21, but I don’t mind if you’re older than me. We should have compatible values, so no right-wingers, bigots, or anybody involved with the military or police please. I’m also submissive in the bedroom, and would prefer somebody complimentary.

Most importantly, please don’t message if:

• You are another man/femboy.
• You are only looking for platonic friends.
• You are already in an open or polyamorous relationship.
• You are exclusively interested in an online dynamic.

I’m happy to talk online for as long as you need to feel comfortable prior to meeting, but I am ultimately seeking somebody who can cuddle and hold me IRL, either as part of a long-term relationship, or a FWB dynamic. Please save both of us some time and don’t message if that’s a dealbreaker for you!

Please see attached a photo of me (with face obscured) so you have some idea what I’m like. I look forward hearing from you. :3

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