Hello! 😊

Note: I know this post is a bit lengthy, but I believe in being open and transparent. I wanted to give you a clear picture of who I am and what I’m looking for. Thanks for taking the time to read it!

Location: I’m a software developer living in Mesa, Arizona. My current employer requires me to reside in AZ, but my profession would allow for a fully remote position with many other companies. I’m currently seeking an employer who will permit this flexibility, and I will expedite the process if I enter a long-distance relationship.

I’m willing to travel and relocate for the right person. If I were to meet someone highly compatible who lives in another country, I’d find a job at a company that allows me to work there. I don’t want distance to be an obstacle. I hope you’d be willing to do the same for me, should your circumstances permit it.

I want to move to Philadelphia for now. It’s way too hot and dry here! 🥵 I hope that living there will increase my chances of being able to date locally (when including Baltimore, DC, and NYC). Think of all the fun day trips we could take together! Being within a 2-hour flight of most of the U.S. population would make long-distance relationships more feasible, too. Living car-free is a goal of mine, so other walkable cities like Chicago, DC, and Seattle would also be ideal if I had a partner there to help justify the high cost of living. That’s not a hard requirement, though.

Hobbies: I enjoy good food/trying new restaurants and quality TV, movies, and books. I’m particularly fond of animated works, with Studio Ghibli being a highlight for animated movies. I used to write from time to time and would like to try my hand at it again someday. Once I move, I’d like to go out every now and then to check out a museum, botanical garden, festival, or go on a walk or hike. I’m not into overnight or extreme outdoor activities like camping, backpacking, and rock climbing. Sports bore me to tears. 🥱

My primary hobby is video games, with action-adventure and RPG being two of my favorite genres. The Zelda series and Stardew Valley are top-tier. It would be wonderful to have gaming as a mutual interest, but it isn't a necessity.

Appearance: I’m 5’9", 130 lbs., and Caucasian/German with brown hair, blue eyes, and long eyelashes. I have a standard/skinny-leaning body type and a traditional look (not feminine presenting). I try to keep myself looking nice and exercise every week.

Personality: I’m rather introverted and a good listener. I can be talkative, but only with someone I enjoy being around. I love deep conversations.

Relationship Preferences:

• I’m hoping we can start as friends and see where the relationship organically takes us.
• Some dealbreakers for me are smoking, being a picky eater (including anything outside of omnivorous), and being an irresponsible animal owner. I don’t own any pets and never see myself getting one. I’m much more of a cat person, though. Dogs don’t do much for me.
• I don’t drink or use any soft drugs (like marijuana), but I’m OK with my partner using those as long as it’s not excessive or an addiction.
• I’m only interested in monogamy. Ideally, I’m looking for someone between the ages of 20 to 32. I could go a bit older, but younger would probably feel uncomfortable.
• I’m childfree and want to be dual income, no kids (DINK). If you’re a remote worker, that’s even better. Not that I’d necessarily be against the idea of someone taking care of me, but I figure that’s probably a stretch! 🤣
• I’m an atheist (not spiritual in any way) and consider myself politically independent. I'm pro-choice and big on personal freedom in general. Naturally, we’ll want to be on a similar wavelength concerning worldviews.
• I have physical preferences like everyone else. Taller women, pale skin, brown or red natural hair colors, or an alt look if dyed, and a few other things are particularly appealing to me. But the important factor is putting a reasonable amount of effort into appearance (and health, by extension).
• I try to be independent and self-sufficient, with long-term goals for the future (e.g., achieving FIRE and retiring in Europe). However, I’m not the most traditionally masculine man out there. I’m a bit more sensitive and in touch with my emotions compared to other men, and I can be a little timid at times. I'm working on my self-confidence, though. I want someone who loves and accepts those parts of me. I want to be vulnerable around my partner and vice-versa.
• Kindness, empathy, intelligence, ambition, and assertiveness are all qualities I find highly attractive in a woman.
• I love the idea of role reversal—being cared for and protected instead of always playing the stoic provider. If you're into being the knight in shining armor, I'd definitely be up for that dynamic!
• I want something built on mutual love and respect. I don’t want to be viewed as a lesser person because of my personality and preferences.

Sexual Preferences:

• I haven’t had the opportunity to explore a femdom relationship with a compatible partner, so I’d say that I’m still discovering that aspect of myself to a certain extent.
• I’m 100% sub. Full disclosure, I’m working through some health problems that could be influencing my preferences to some degree. I suspect that there’s a small chance I could be a switch (still heavily leaning sub) after they are resolved.
• I’m attracted to motherly/loving/nurturing women and enjoy receiving affection in and out of the bedroom. Gentle femdom/mommydom is what I’m looking for. I don’t like the degradation and humiliation found in regular femdom. I’m not a brat and don’t see myself getting into that (beyond light teasing if it’s something my partner is into). So, I guess you could say that I’m more of a “mommy” than “mistress” or “ma’am” kind of guy. The latter two feel a bit cold and impersonal to me.
• Some of the explicit things I'm interested in are breast play (both ways 😉), pegging/prostate stimulation, milking, facesitting/eating out, bondage, biting, CNC, and hypnosis. I think it’s important for sexual satisfaction to be mutual. I want both of us to be fulfilled.
• My hard limits are pretty standard (anything dangerous/violent/illegal, piss, scat, diapers/heavy ageplay in general, and so on).

I’d love to hear from you if you think we’d be a good match. I’m willing to send pictures or video chat privately.