Brief Summary

Hi, thanks for taking the time to check out my post! Sorry for the long length, here’s a quick summary to get the basics out of the way. I’m an inexperienced 22 year old cis man from NJ looking to build a monogamous RR or female-led relationship with a cis woman or non-binary person who was assigned female at birth, who is between between 18 and 35 (ideally 20-30), and is based in or around NJ. Experience doesn’t matter.

About Me

I’m 5’7", 130 lbs, and have blue eyes (SFW picture here, no face until verification, sorry :( ). I’d describe myself as affectionate, honest, sensitive, caring, open-minded, attentive, kinda nerdy, and have a good sense of humor (I laugh at everything, and I’m kinda goofy). I’m going into my 4th year of my computer science major and in my free time I like to spend time with friends, my dog, and my cat (if you cant tell, I’m pretty clingy and hate being alone lol), play video games, watch youtube or shows, play guitar, do yoga, etc. I like most music, especially alt and rock stuff, however, yes, I don’t like to country and I have my reasons! It’s cool if you do though. Environmentalism, human rights, feminism, and adjacent causes are important to me. I’m plant-based and have a passion for animal welfare and nature. My primary love languages are quality time and physical touch, but I value them all! I also value open and frequent communication. I’m inexperienced in D/s relationships, but I’m capable and willing to learn. In the meantime, I’ve been doing research myself to prepare to support my partner in a dynamic!

What I'm Looking For

I’m looking for a relationship above all (friends first is ideal) with kink as the cherry on top. ISO a connection with someone whom I can trust and be vulnerable with, hopefully become best friends with, and eventually be comfortable submitting to. Starting off online is fine, but I'd like things to eventually move to irl. I'm hoping for a caring, kind, assertive, and potentially outgoing (it's okay if not, I'm just shy) partner who shares some of my values/politics and has a slender, average, curvy, athletic, or muscular body type, no shame to anyone else! <3 In terms of what dynamic I'm seeking, mainly RR, but I think I'd like a few (hopefully some combination of all or multiple), being FLR, “D/s lovers,” Cg/l, bondage, and training. As I said, I am sensitive, so I’m not looking for someone who will hurt and berate me, but someone to nurture and guide me.

NSFW and Dynamic

Not to say I would be opposed to rougher stuff now and then, but I prefer more sensual and emotionally focused dom/dommes, like gentle femdom or mommy dom/CG, or switches/vanillas who fit my description. Ideally, the dynamic wouldn't just be stuff in the bedroom, but a key part of our lives too (vanilla stuff included as well). Physical affection (I love cuddling), emotional affection, and praise are my absolute favorite things; However, my focus is to please and obey my partner and make them feel special and understood, and hope that they’d make me feel the same! I can cook and clean, and I’d take care of, pamper, and support them. I would hope to be guided, disciplined, and directed, have some decisions made for me, be cared for and pampered as well, and of course, be the little spoon :3. I hope to be able to surrender control to someone else I can trust and love. When it comes to kinks and limits, my hard limits include scat, cuckolding, sounding, and extreme violence/pain/degredation. Also no findom. I wont provide all kinks and interests unless requested, but if you’re interested, my favorites are praise, body worship, cunnilingus, ANR, collaring, Md/lb, CNC, licking/spit play, marking, rope play, and pet play. I'm also open to switching if that’s ever desired, but I'm happiest with being completely submissive.

If any of this has interested you and you'd like to chat, please dm me a bit about yourself, your looks (or picture), and what you look for in a friend/partner. I wont respond without this info as I’m trying to avoid scammers (and get to know you!), sorry :( If you’re comfortable and want me to know your own limits and kinks early on, please share! No pressure if you don’t want to of course. I’d love to get to know you and I will try to respond asap, at most within a few hours! I’d prefer verification after some chatting so that we know we click first.

I look forward to meeting you! :)