Hello

Giving this a go again. Compliments of the season everyone.

I am single, no kids, West African in Africa, black, 5’5”, moderately curvy, naturally dominant, territorial, possessive, loves to be pampered and spoilt and extremely protective of what’s mine. I am a mix of strict, gentle, passionate, bitchy and loving. I am sometimes also known to take no prisoners especially with those that may think they want to waste my time.

I am Looking for a male submissive longterm, monogamous, loving and romantic life partner. Crucial key components in any relationship are VITAL so things like a deep connection, sparkling chemistry, open and honest communication, compatibility, building trust and friendship are NOT NEGOTIABLE. It will be a slow burn process since the end goal is a longterm thing so getting to know each other to see if we’re compatible at all must happen. If we are, then we keep going on. If we are not, then it’s adieu.

I am multi layered and generally have interests in a wide range of subjects and also an eclectic taste. I enjoy movies and books and other such stimulating things. I also like good senses of humor that I can relate with. I don’t mind playing games once in a while. Scrabble with board games and the adventure genre with video games are favorites. Even though I’m a misanthrope and an ambivert (more introverted leaning), I tend to hangout with people quite often (being single and all) and would love to travel to a lot of places in the world. I enjoy cooking too sometimes and since I’m black and African, definitely love it spicy and hot. I’m a smoker and a social drinker so those that find that off putting, take note.

I have a wide range of kinks but my biggest is the D/s, obedience, training and servitude aspect. I firmly believe that most of everything begins in the mind and being a dominant or submissive is not an exception. We must both derive joy and happiness from the immense mental stimulation derived from being dominant or submissive. I am also dominant in and out of the bedroom, which means my relationship must be a female led one to a large degree. As to kinks since compatibility is all encompassing, we must also be compatible to a large extent there as well. We start off online and then move it to irl. We can work towards that. I take what is important to me very seriously and my submissive partner will definitely qualify as extremely very important and that means I will put in all my all (which is a lot) and do everything I consider to be the best for him. And I totally expect the same. I will also work with him to be the best version of himself he can be and to achieve any and all potentials and living life to the fullest and while doing this, I am able to do and be the same as well. Being together, learning together, growing together, taking care of each other, loving together. That is the goal. Oh and I’m not perfect and very human with many flaws. I expect any normal human to not be either but must also be capable and ready to learn from mistakes and grow as a person. I will also do the same.

You must be over 30, single, in good shape, well spoken, a little cerebral, monogamous and loyal, know what you want generally in life or have strong ideas, be mentally stable, be dependable, have a good sense of humor, a little adventurous, a little outside the box, be open minded, not too left or right leaning, have accepted who you are as a submissive, have done some research online on your own if you’re new, ready to open up and learn my ways if you’re not, be willing and ready to work hard, listen, learn and grow, be able to understand the concept that being a submissive is not being a door mat and it comes from a place of strength, be ready to please and satisfy, be ready to pamper and spoil me senselessly, be ready for your focus to be more about pleasing and satisfying me, be ready to be patient and follow my lead, be eventually proud to be owned. You must also be looking for a longterm loving and romantic partner who is dominant.

What I’m not looking for: Switches (submissives only), littles, pain sluts, femboys, cuckolding, full time sissies, full time feminization, full time chastity, ABDL, toilet slaves and brats. Nothing against them, just not for me.

Time wasters, those that lack common sense and those looking for kink dispensers, save yourself the energy and time.

If this ad resonates with you, send me a message. Do not send me a chat, messages only. Introduce yourself, tell me a few of your hobbies and what you think you have to offer. Also include something you generally find funny or/and interesting.

If there’s an initial zing, then a voice call will be done for the first verification. If the zing gets bigger, then a video call for full verification.

Take note that rules, tasks, protocols, rituals, punishments and rewards would be an integral part of the dynamic.

Relationships are not always easy and anyone who’s been in one should know that. How much more a D/s one with it’s uniqueness. Expecting a smooth sail would not only be naive but also foolish. It takes a lot of hard work to make something good work. It takes even harder work to make something great work. In a Domme / male sub type dynamic with the already preconditioned psyche of the submissive to the social and cultural gender norms and dynamics, no matter how submissive you think you are or how much you’ve accepted that about yourself, it will take a lot of hard work, determination and dedication to make a D/s relationship not only work but make it great (and we haven’t added other things like personality traits and behaviors). If you think you don’t have the time, energy, capacity, will and/or drive for this, then go on your merry way and do not contact me.

We Dommes rarely post ads because of the tremendous barrages that follow but I’ve decided to step out again to look for that shinning needle in a haystack and I again expect a lot of haystacks to message. I really really hope that my shinning needle will see this and believe that I will go through all messages and give initial replies to the ones that show promise. So my advice to you is take your time with your message, be yourself and let yourself shine.

Cheers.