[5/29/23 - This personal is closed, but remains posted for posterity.]

*I'm dropping the pun-title tradition for a moment so I actually have enough power in the old cranial mitochondria to finish this post. You may have encountered it in a different format around a year ago. *

Unlike the my spine when I perform weighted squats, I gravitate towards stability. Lucky for both of us, reader, I've got a great pair of girl-arms and a basic understanding of physics.

Who are you?

I'm a black 23 year old engineer-in-halted-training who has taken a lot of time to reevaluate what she appreciates in a relationship. The verdict? Emotional intelligence, best efforts at communication, and a person who wouldn't particularly mind me playing with their hair for, like, a few hours.

Sure, sure, but who are you?

I'm not looking for anyone to save me, nor am I looking to save anyone. I want someone to experience the fluff with - the soft, the sweet - as we both actualize into the most comfortable versions of ourselves. For me, that's trying new things, constantly - longboarding, aerial silks, punk shows, cooking with nothing but vegetables and 20 different tofu marinades - I want us to grow in our own ways. Together.

More relevant to you, however, is how I perceive role reversal and put it into practice. In my professional life, I've led teams and currently run my day on minimal caffeine and maximal problem-solving. I make decisions, a lot. I certainly don't mind doing this in a relationship, but I also crave the space to be emotionally vulnerable and nurturing and soft with a partner without feeling like I'm destroying 200 years of feminism in the process. Strange place to be in, I promise. I was raised and socialized as a progressive woman, so I have an extremely egalitarian preference for relationship styles, but I also can never sit back and... do nothing. I want to make my partner blush and feel loved and cared for, and I want the same for myself.

Let me be strong and soft, and I'll hand you my heart. Let me care for yours.

5'3" (recently measured!), soft curves with a strong foundation of muscle inside. My body is strange for me to describe, but someone asked if I modeled the other day,, if that helps! (it does not.) The homies think I'm pretty. My fashion varies wildly from day to day. Lots of crisp white shirts and buisness casual done up with a stack of gold jewelry or... Skate librarian. Lots of flowing dresses and cold shoulders in earth tones.

Why RR?

I grew up panromantic, I couldn't vet you on your your gender if I tried - and for me, that extends to expression. I believe humans are the most attractive and efficient when given the space and empathy to express themselves in ways in which they feel safe, loved, lovely, and cared for by their own hand. That doesn't always fall along the lines of traditional gender expression. I love humans in human bodies, enjoying themselves. And thigh-highs look fantastic on everyone, god.

Please be aware - I am not a mommy Dom.

What else?

This will.. almost definitely be updated as I remember important parts of a personals ad. Possibly in a subsequent post. This happens to be the first subsequent post. I'm a STEM girlie to my toes, so I'm probably going to want to hear about your obscure mechanical interests. I'm and aspiring gym rat with far too many crocheted bags. Sometimes, I don't shut up about psychological horror or 3 hour long art films. I spend a lot of time volunteering in my community - direct action is fulfilling for me. I'm also fairly self-sufficient, and I have the same reasonable expectation of a partner. That comes in many forms. Communication is my pride and joy. Reciprocation is important - I love listen and be heated, to hold and be held, but if you'd rather cook while I do the home repairs, that's fully up my alley.

I'm rambling.

I don't want perfect, from anyone - I want you to try. For you. That's the standard I live and empathize by.

What are you looking for?

A relationship born of a friendship. It's pretty difficult for me to be attracted to someone who I don't already have a foundation of love and respect for, so, I'm more than excited to make a few new friends along the way.

Note: I love in the center of the US, though I am perfectly comfortable with long-distance.