Hi everyone! :)

I thought I would make another attempt at finding what will hopefully lead to a long-term romantic relationship with RR elements here on reddit.

To say beforehand: I’m looking for a serious relationship, I’m not interested in anything casual or short-term, so please only message me if you’re looking for the same. I don’t mind long distance as long as it’s possible for us to eventually meet up (I live in Germany).

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About me:

I consider myself generally cheerful; I tend to laugh and smile a lot around friends, although I would say I’m naturally more pessimistic. I’ve worked for years on gaining a more positive outlook on life and I do think I’m doing a decent job of that. People seem to feel comfortable around me and I’m good at putting them at ease. I would say I’m a good judge of character. I tend to be a little stubborn (okay, a lot) and sarcastic, although I’m very conscious of not hurting people with my words.

Honesty and open communication are very important to me in any relationship, whether it’s a friendship or a romantic partnership. I want to know what my partner likes/doesn’t like, if something hurt them etc. I do believe problems can be solved by calm and rational discussions rather than by arguing. I tend to be very protective of those I care about and like to check on them often.

I’m a bit of a perfectionist, so I can get frustrated when things don’t work out on the first try. I also tend to want to solve my problems myself so I often have a hard time reaching out/talking about problems until they’re solved or I’ve made a decision which is something I’m working on but still struggle with.

I love learning new things and I do try to improve myself continuously. I treat people with kindness and I would say I have an even temper but I’m absolutely not a pushover and will definitely defend myself if someone tries to push my buttons. I tend to be pretty talkative with friends and I’m able to hold a conversation easily.

Additionally, I’m also what some might consider a closeted romantic, I don’t think people would expect me to be but I enjoy doing all these sappy things for my partner when I’m in a relationship, like writing notes for them to find or buying their favourite pastry or flowers just because I know they will enjoy it.

Physically, I’m on the smaller side (160cm), average body tending a bit chubbier since the pandemic (and trying to slim back down). Brown eyes, brown, mostly straight hair (shoulder length), kind of pale because I don’t like the sun or hot weather. I think I’m cute but you can be the judge of that!

My preferred dressing style is a mix between a librarian and a forest witch (when I’m not wearing jeans and t-shirts) and I usually wear dark/muted colours. I also like other styles, but I’m not super adventurous when it comes to fashion and I prefer simple, ‘clean cut’, professional-looking pieces.

I’m mostly a homebody who occasionally likes to go out and do things. I enjoy travelling abroad, going to the opera/theatre, museums and restaurants and I like meeting people just to talk over a coffee or beer. I’ve been neglecting the gym ever since the pandemic happened but I’m trying to get back into regularly working out (I like yoga, zumba and aerobics). Overall more of an introvert who can still be the life of the party as long as I get a 48h notice in advance to prepare mentally haha.

My main hobbies are reading/writing and cooking and baking as well as just generally learning new things. I’ve made recent attempts to get into gardening and book binding and to improve my sewing skills. I also enjoy going on fairly long walks through the woods (I have a dog who needs to be walked but unfortunately, he doesn’t like walking nearly as much as I do). I’m generally interested in history (not military history, though), linguistics, philosophy and spirituality but I like to learn a little bit of everything. One of my favourite pastimes is watching documentaries or YouTube essays on random topics and learning new things that way.

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What I look for in a relationship:

I’m looking to have a relationship that is built on mutual trust and support, in which both partners are honest and caring and both can be themselves around the other. A relationship that feels 'comfortable’, that is built on a strong friendship.

Positivity and loyalty are also super important and the feeling that both partners put in equal amounts of effort so it won’t end up being too one-sided. A relationship that involves a lot of open communication, I want to be able to have both serious conversations and to laugh freely and frequently. It would be nice if we both complemented each other’s strengths and weaknesses. Emotional stability is important as well.

My main love languages are Quality Time and Acts of Service.

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About RR:

To me the RR aspects come in more as a relationship dynamic, seeing as I consider myself to be pretty feminine in appearance and interests but I’ve always been the more dominant partner in past relationships (btw, I’ve only ever been with other women previously, if that is relevant) and I’ve noticed I’ve struggled trying to date men who try to enforce traditional gender dynamics. So basically, RR fits my personality and the way I naturally behave in a relationship and I don’t think I could be in a traditional opposite-sex relationship where I had to stick to the prescribed roles.

I would also consider myself a top so this is another aspect of why RR appeals more to me (no PIV for me). I love being the big spoon; I love it when my partner is the ‘pretty’ one in the relationship (not that I don’t think I’m good-looking, just that I love it when I can make my partner feel like the most beautiful person in the world). I have some interest in some GFD-y things but only want to explore that inside a long-term relationship.

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Things I’d like in a partner:

There are not that many hard requirements, just be sure we can eventually meet up, be roughly around my age, be misogyny-free and be okay with the fact that I’m a complete top (aka no PIV intercourse at all).

As for preferences, physical attraction is important to me so I would like to video call/exchange pictures once we get talking for a while but I don’t really have a type as such. Just be a healthy weight!

Although of course, if you’re a handsome viking I certainly won’t say no :D Someone around my height who isn’t a giant would be nice as I’m on the smaller side and it might be awkward if there’s a huge height gap but it’s not a dealbreaker either way. Also, I’m not into crossdressing at all, just want to clarify that here.

Otherwise I tend to be attracted to people who are kind, gentle and sensitive. I absolutely adore shyness in guys and obviously I’m drawn to guys who enjoy being taken care of. Someone who will let me shower him with affection and lets me call him ‘beautiful’ or ‘cute’ and who is open with his emotions (or at least making an effort to be so). Someone who is passionate about his interests and hobbies and likes to talk about them and who, in turn, will also enjoy listening to whatever his partner has to say. Someone who has a sense of humour, who is thoughtful and compassionate.

Someone who, like me, tries to be positive (even if it’s not always successful, that’s okay! We can both try to work towards it) and generally also wants to improve himself. Someone who can hold his end of the conversation. I do enjoy initiating things a lot, but nobody likes to feel like their efforts are in vain because the other party doesn’t show any interest. Someone who will also put in effort into making the relationship work and who is also willing to support his partner.

Other things I value: being an animal lover, open-mindedness, having a nice smile.

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I know this is a long post but I thought it’s best to put everything here so people can get a good idea of whether or not we’re compatible. I appreciate detailed messages and won’t reply to one-word messages, sorry!

That being said, thank you so much for reading! Also, I’m rather ill right now so depending on how I feel it might be a while until I get back to you! Have a lovely day <3