When I (45F) am home and able to make dinner for him (49M), I do so in order to make his coming home more welcoming, blah blah blah. All the reasons one makes dinner for their family.

I was able to come home VERY early today which meant I would be able to have dinner with him and his daughter. I called him as soon as I found out, which gave him more than 2 hours notice that I was coming home.

I come in and not only is he not preparing dinner, he’s asleep. He didn’t even think enough about it to tell his daughter that I could be home for dinner, which is something that makes her very happy.

It isn’t about tit for tat, it’s about the fact that I clearly don’t seem to rate on the same level of importance to him. I look to make things more welcoming for him, when I seem to enter his thought process at all.

I feel very embarrassed to have really noticed the imbalance here. :(