I am trying to keep this as anonymous as possible so I used my throwaway account. My wife and I have been together for nearly 8 years this November. We moved to the United States from Scotland approximately 5 years ago. We have three kids together during this 8 year span. My problem is that for the last 5 years there have been so many arguments between us. I do not want my kids to see us arguing anymore since it is not healthy for them even though some of the arguments are my fault and some are hers. The other day we got into an argument because I was attempting to help her with a business she is wanting to start. She neglected to listen to what I had to suggest and dismissed my experience and me having a masters in business administration. While I understand I still have a lot to learn, I have performed hundreds of hours of research throughout my higher education that makes me feel confident to speak accuarately on some of these topics we were discussing.

This led to her throwing my GPA in my face and making me feel really shitty about my hard work. I apologized to her because of the way she said I made her feel. She said I was telling her what to do instead of suggesting it so I apologized to rectify the situation. However, this is how my apology went, "I'm sorry I made you feel that I was telling you what to do, but all I was trying to do was to look out for your best interests and have you value your business accurately, but in the future, can you please not throw my achievements in my face."

This is when she said she wouldn't have done what she did if I didn't say what I did and how I said it.

There seems to be no communication anymore and I just shutoff from her and stay to myself most days. There is no physical touch or emotional support anymore so I am feeling quite dead inside. I'm seriously at my breaking point since I can't talk to her without it becoming a fight.

The main problem is that we are set to move back to Scotland in the next year to be closer to her mom and dad. But, at this point I don't know if I want to, but will do it to be close to my kids since I feel that she will do everything to take my kids away from me to move over there. I'm leaning towards a divorce since we have tried counseling, couples counseling, and everything in between. So, while some days are good i dont think our kids need to be around the toxicity of our relationship, but i feel like im going to lose them if I ask for a divorce.

There are so many details I'm missing I'm sure, but my head feels so scatter brained at the moment so I'm reaching out to reddit to find advice and people to talk to.

Reddit, please help!