So, I am 23M and my past have been in one good relationship for 5years, it was very innocent at beginning from being not attracted to each other and then becoming good platonic friends and time went by, we both developed feelings for each other and then we got into relationship, kind of first for both of us, it has end due to LDR and Compatibility issues, we were aware about it but had hope we will change and we changed but in a different way, and then we had to part ways maturely and then overcoming the breakup was a journey but i am sure to say have healed and ready now for a better future.

I am completely clueless what to do in the this new dating scenario, i thought we will be married but life is unpredictable, i will speak on behalf of myself, i kind of feeling hard to find girls who will match my vibe and i have developed a kind of liking and know what works and what not works, so it has become extremely difficult to like a person, i just like on the attractiveness scale but at my heart i feel completely hopeless to find that magic and trust again, i am not sad(that phase is over), i am grateful for what happened always wish the best for my ex.

So guys the point is, i have lost the game and mindset to impress or to be in the dating market, i feel i have become matured and old in relationship, like the uncle kind... because i feel,( Casual, Short Term and Even Long Term) is kind of time waste and more kind of poking a needle into the heart, what i am feeling is Dating to marry and being serious committed to a person ensure the contentedness of our heart, have meaning and saves time, energy and memory, before talking things into intimacy and would love to form good friendship first.

My Main issues has become like, i am kind of become incompetent in dating scenario as it is filled being good on dating apps and in India, to approach and talk is kind of not that freely and openly looked, I don't belong to the fast dating culture is what i am feeling and now i am already graduated and working, so its been hard to make girl friendships first and then eventual develop feelings for the personality and then take it to a relationship. and i feel arranged marriage don't let you know the person better and make a unsafe unwilling and dishearten commitment in a relationship, you may or may not like the person, playing the odds, and have been seeing many divorces... so, i don't want that to happen in my life, so i want to Date with intentions to Marry but this is kind of hard.

Please give me some wisdom or advice how to navigate in this situation. For me keeping my heart safe is important.. and correct me for my opinions and assumptions..