I (23f) have been with my bf(27m) for about 2 years now. I've always known that he does roleplay chats on discord and sofurry, and I have no issue with that. There's someone he's been roleplaying with long term, since before we met. She (yes I know for sure she is a she IRL, there are photos) is engaged now. I'm not normally one to snoop but he has been being more secretive lately with his electronics, which isn't usually the case because we only have one laptop and one tablet he used to let me play games on but now he doesn't want me to, plus hiding his phone, locking the screen when he sees me coming into a room etc. Well, yesterday he went to the store to grab a couple things for dinner and accidentally left his discord chat open. They've been talking a lot. I should probably mention that since our place is non smoking, he spends a lot of the day outside smoking (weed and cigarettes) and apparently all this time he spends chatting with her. Not even roleplaying. They send real life photos (nothing sexual, just her pets, his hobbies, etc) but yesterday he was asking her what kind of underwear she wears and even sent a chart of different types of womens underwear so he could "imagine it better" I'm honestly really hurt and we have had issues over this rp partner before. I've told him that I'm totally fine with rp, but I don't feel comfortable when he goes into his real life, especially when he never mentions me to her even though she's told him about her current relationship. It really hurts because he talks to this online person way more than he talks to me, says more to her about how he's feeling, seems to care more about how she's feeling, and to me it feels like, at the very least, emotional cheating. Before I confront him I just want to make sure I'm not the issue. I am 8 months pregnant, and have been less interested in sex these past few months, we're working on an adoption plan and I have just been really stressed with getting ready for the birth, especially when it seems like my state will probably still be shut down and there are heavy restrictions on hospital guests and birthing support. So maybe I've been neglecting his needs and he felt he needed to go to someone else, idk. Advice? UPDATE: Well I didn't get any advice but we've handled it. It started as a big argument because I was really upset about some of the things he had said to her and he ended up deleting his discord app, even though that wasn't the issue. We both took some space and I had to go to a doctor's appointment. We've been texting, he appologized and I told him (word for word here) "I love you. I didn't want you to delete your app I just wanted you to set some boundaries. I don't care that you have friends outside of our relationship, you should. It's healthy to have other people to talk to and share your hobbies with. You just crossed a line with her that hurt me, and that's what's not ok" They are now setting boundaries and he appologized a couple more times for hurting me, and I appologized for my lack of affection lately. That's it I guess. I'm home now and he's out but when he comes back we'll probably hug and I'll cry a lot. I'm emotional af right now.