Why am I always caught on the end of a man’s wrath 😂 anyone else going through this? Dating is a minefield 🥹

I feel like this is a constant theme throughout my life. I’m always on the receiving end of a man’s wrath, even when I feel like I didn’t do much wrong. I am like the nicest sweetest girl in majority of relationships I’ve had. Like I’m super loving towards them. Except one maybe two I would admit I made mistakes.

But majority of the time it goes like this,

Me: Says something wrong that’s little, goes along with something he wants that I’m unsure about

Him: Loses his mind, cusses me out, treats me like another man ready to fight

Me: I’m really sorry I didn’t mean it that way I hope we can work things out. I really like you

Him: No bye!! Proceeds to harass me later down the line in some way shape or form.

Recently I was vibing hard with a guy. The chemistry was intense. He’s super sweet to me. One day he tells me he wants me to say more taboo things to him like him being submissive. I told him straight up I’m not comfortable doing it but he insisted that it really turns him on. We went back & forth and he kept trying to pressure me to do it. I agreed bcuz obviously I really liked him. I told him I’m going to say it very lightly and not go full force like he wants because it’s just not me. Trying to find a happy medium. And I definitely let him be in control of it. So it seemed like we had a plan. 🎀🎀🎀🎀

The next day I’m blocked. I reach out to him on a different social media & he lashes out so hard at me. Screaming at me saying fuck off and all these insults. I’m like “I’m so sorry did I go too far I didn’t mean to you wanted me to do it, I feel horrible I like you so much I want us to work this out.”

He just continued to threaten me, said fuck off bro. I’m like bro?? 🥺 You were literally talking about wedding plans like last week. God that was a mess. I admit I texted him a little trying so hard to salvage that relationship, I just felt horrible and took it really hard. I tried so hard to fix it. He just kept being heartless to me so I let him go.

Reminds me of this time years ago when I was dating a guy & he invited me over one night. His best friend was there & he wanted me to hook up with him. Like hookup with his best friend bcuz his friend wanted some. I was like no no I’m not into that, I love you & I’m not sl** He insisted I do it. So, my dumbass did. We didn’t even have sex! We fooled around in the next room. Well next day boyfriend is screaming at me calling me a wh**e because I should’ve said no and I “went too far with it”. We didn’t even have sex!!! We didn’t discuss rules or anything!! Just him being drunk wanting me to hook up with his best friend.

Well those guys and a group of their friends harrassed me for a year. Drove past my house egging it, throwing trash in my yard, screaming whore. Like every single weekend. I never lived it down!!!! He wanted me to do it!! Like what the heck?

I apologized so much to him I liked him so much, he refused every time.

I feel like I’m constantly trying to please the man im dating at the time & it always blows up in my face. I’m like I literally did this for you, for you to like me. And now I’m burned at the stake for it. I constantly find myself in this situation 🥺😩😩😩

Like same situation, different story. I always seem to be fucking up 😤 I’m like okay how do I not piss this guy off so it turns really bad? Like they are super sweet but then turn on me so fast? I feel like I’m walking on eggshells.

I notice men don’t listen to apologies 😂 anytime I apologize to a man a door is slammed in my face. 🥲

I have other stories like this but you get the picture. This really isn’t a man bashing post, I really don’t hate men. I love men. But like, why am I always experiencing this? I feel like I never say anything controversial. I’ve never cheated on a guy. I never talk politics. Im a pretty shy loving girl and I’m still running into issues. Maybe I need to start playing for the other team 😂🩷

I’m just honestly tapped out at this point. Anyone else going through this? 🩵 sorry for any typos I’m in bed lol