my boyfriend 27(m) and I 30(f) have been together 5 years. Up until August of 2023 we had spent basically every day together. Due to financial reasons he moved in with his parents and I moved in with my parents and we live about an hour away from each other now, which isn’t a big deal but he doesn’t have a car with his work and a couple of things I see him maybe once or twice every two weeks. The other stuff isn’t stuff he hast to do and he keep us from seeing each other and a couple other things have changed but I don’t know how important those details are if they have more questions but the biggest things are these have not been sexual with each other in a really long time it might happen here there but it’s nothing like it used to be and it’s we had it twice in 2023 and that really isn’t for me keep in mind I gained almost double my weight because of a medical issue, where it messed up my hormones really bad, and he says he still attracted me and he’s in his head and I believe that could be true but he doesn’t seem invested. Seems like he has other priorities and the other night I was kind of trying to work on sexual things we were on the phone. I was talking with him, because we are both bisexual and described you know like a scenario where he got to experience that (I basically described where he got his fantasy and it was with another man and it was just the two of them and he was submissive.) I guess that really turned him on and he got hard and rubbed out he never has before but I think it’s something he wants and something he needs to do more in depth and he’s really you know me or even know him self and I’ve been the one initiating all of our conversation I’ve tried talking to him about it and he does a little things better now but I don’t think it’s ever should’ve gotten here and I don’t resent him but I don’t want to get to that either