He (m37) messages inappropriate things to certain women, some of them being ones he has done intimate things in the past, some of them being just known for having loose habits even for very liberal standards. I (34f) have no proof that he actually ever met up with them recently bit I found condoms once and we don't use them (he tries to influence me to have children with him) but he said a goody friend at work put it in his jacket as a prank. He gets angry when I ask why he writes inappropriate things with other women, says if you think that of me then divorce me etc. He doesn't even hide it, I found it multiple times on an old phone that serves as hotspot at home and his messaging apps can be logged in to from there. Idk what to think or do. 10 years together.