This method I have used over the past several years: This method is gendered because I’ve done this only with women.

1) Establish a rule: they may not touch themselves without permission, they may not orgasm without permission 2) Stop using vibrators 3) Have them report how turned on they are from 0-10 where 10 is an actual orgasm 4) Start relaxation exercises where they lightly touch themselves starting with the face/neck and going down the chest/nipples. 5) Encourage ASMR type tingling 6) Lightly touch around the vulva but not the clit 7) As level rises start touching and then squeezing nipples 8) Don’t attempt orgasm until level >9 9) If needed then lightly touch clit until 9 10) Get to 9.5 11) Initiate countdown from 10 to 1 12) They will start to beg to be allowed to cum 13) Be very positive and encouraging 14) After you get to 1: Issue the command cum for me now

15) Do this again and again

16) Have then focus on the tingling during the day 17) Have them “play” with raising their level without touching. 18) When they can get to level 9 without touching go until 9.5 without touching 19) At 9.5 start a countdown

I use a lot of praise and positive reinforcement. If someone is having trouble getting to a level then switch to clitoral / vaginal stimulation. Don’t make this frustrating and never punish or give any negative reinforcement for not orgasming.