Hi there !

You're kinky ? Your partner isn't yet ? You wonder if there's a way to drag him/her into it ?

Well, I'm there too.

And I made a communication move that, for now, works.

So, I wanted to share it with you all in case it helps anyone here to establish a dynamic with a newbie/vanilla partner that you're not sure would be into this kind of kinks : the little guide I wrote to my partner and made her into being my Dom.

Now, I want to re-write it someday, in order to help fueling the dynamic and cement it. So, if you're curious enough to give it a read, please give me your input !

>>> Here it is !

For some context :

So, me (31M) and my partner (30F) have been experimenting with bdsm forever. But always in very amateur spontaneous sessions.

Until I admitted to myself it was something I needed. And so, I made a move and engaged into a dialogue with her about doing this more "seriously". And she was like "maybe make a list of what you'd want, I'll pick what I can indulge ?"

The list turned into a 20 pages rambling about what I desired, and why, and how to indulge it.

I sent it, half convinced it would be "too much" and met with a polite "I'm not that much into it". But you know, it was exciting to write, and I needed the distraction, so...

Well. It's been a blast. She was really turned on by it. I really thought it would amuse her for a week and that she'd get bored, but to my amazment, she does continue to fuel the dynamic. And every time she dominates me, I'm so turned on it lead to exceptional sex for us both.

A few days earlier, she was overwhelmed with work, I was asking here wether to back off, afraid it would end the dynamic, or offer my submission as a way for her to release stress. I leaned to the opinion I should back off. Well. Same night, I got my ass handed to me good, and she expressed by herself how relaxed it just made her, having beaten and abused me.

I don't know if it's going to last. I don't know I got so lucky it worked. But well... I did something good. So far. So maybe you'll find the idea usefull. Maybe you'll want to rip some pages for yourself. Maybe you want to give me input as to refine a second edition. Maybe you'll cringe hard on my views and want to leave a hatefull comment =p

Well, have at it !

Love,

E.