I'm 40 years old and my husband is 43. We've been married for 21 years and our sex life has never been an issue, Until the last coupleof years. Now when we have sex my husband performs good, but he can hardly ever have an orgasm. (Side note) he has been on behavioral medication for a few years and in September has gotten off of them. He blames the medication and I'd like to believe that. However, this situation has left me feeling like there's a problem with me. I feel like I'm not good enough anymore, I don't feel attractive anymore, even though he tells me im sexy or beautiful. He hardly ever tries to seduce me and I'm the only one who initiates sex. And when we do have sex i usually have to give him a hand job for him to finish. I know that he masterbates because he looks at porn. So it leaves me wondering if he can cum watching porn or if it's just with me that he can't finish. When I try to talk to him about it he gets upset or defensive. Now, when I initiate sex I feel guilty if I have an orgasm and it has left me not being able to. Now neither one of us is able to finish. It leaves us both feeling sexually frustrated. I know that he's not cheating on me and that he loves me beyond a reasonable doubt. He proves that everyday. He treats me like gold and we are each other's best friend. This is just a situation that is really messing with my head. It leaves me wondering if he was with another woman if he'd be able to have an orgasm. That adds more doubting of myself and my capability to sexually satisfy my husband and I feel like there's no point of even trying anymore.