Let me preface all this (I say 'all this' because there is a good chance this might turn into something of a long rant, and for that I apologize, and you'll be forgiven if you don't actually even read it..) by making it known that I am well aware of the nature of this specific subreddit. I am not naive to the fact that it is largely used by people, mostly men, who are interested in/searching for someone to meet up/have a casual see sexual encounter with. Please do not come for me if you object to this admittedly reductive overview. I have been here in the sub for several months and this is just what I have been able to surmise based on my observations. And by virtue of this, I realize some people might feel this type of post is better suited for a different sub. However. In a strange way, over the course of my time here, I have come to view this sub as a safe space for me to openly share certain things; a handful of you have been immeasurably kind and helpful to me (and I am eternally grateful for that).. I feel far more comfortable speaking candidly and without self-doubt here than I have or would anywhere else; possibly because I know you're all somewhat local, and partially because oftentimes, Reddit can be something of a judgy or callous place. I understand that you guys are strangers to me for the most part, but I have never been made to feel stupid or self conscious here and honestly some of the best interactions I've had since moving to the area have been a result of this sub. Were like a weird, dysfunctional family in a way and I wouldn't want it to be any different. 🫶 SO. that being said. I'm currently sitting outside a couple local businesses, unsure of my next move.. I was hanging out with a friend, a new friend, who I was introduced to by someone we both know. It wasn't a date, it wasn't necessarily romantic or sexual in nature, at least in my end, and I had made that clear, in no uncertain terms. Well, evidently this was not what the new friend had in mind, and when it came down to it, I repeated the fact I was not interested in hooking up. And they got extremely defensive, probably because of their small mind and inability to comprehend anything I was actually trying to communicate. So they told me to get out of their room; that I could sit in the living room (they live with several housemates, two of whom actually sectioned off and are sleeping in said living room) while I wait for my ride. Well, I didn't have a ride arranged, because a)once it got pretty late, I had planned on just going home in the morning, and b)it was fucking 2am. Now, I don't think they ever mentioned anything about getting a ride squared away for me, and due to the infuriating nature of the conversation leading up to this, I wasn't trying to sit in this awkward ass living room waiting to find out. So I left. I was fuming, and I just walked out. And I kept walking. And kept walking. And now here I am, a few miles away, not really sure of what to do next. I'm wondering if anyone is awake? Honestly I don't even know what I'm looking for right now. Possibly a friend? Maybe a ride home, eventually? Unfortunately I do feel like I have to clarify that I am NOT TRYNA FIND SOMEONE TO HOOK UP WITH. If you've read this entire thing, that much should be painfully obvious. Of course, to reiterate one of my earlier points; I understand that the majority of people here are not necessarily interested in making friends without the benefits. And honestly, i am not entirely opposed to or closed off from the idea that, upon meeting someone, there could certainly be some sort of connection made and I suppose anything could happen.. I feel like I just have to include that as a sort of disclaimer in an attempt to ward off all of the inevitable horn dogs tryna get the bone they think I'm waving around (for lack of a better, less awful metaphor)... And on that same note, PLEASE DO NOT SEND ME PICTURES OF YOUR FUCKING PENIS. THIS IS NOT AN OPEN ENDED REQUEST FOR DICK PICS. It's fucked up I feel I have to specifically say this, but the reality is, some guys apparently think that my being a female posting on this sub automatically means I want photos of their genitals in my DM's. I DON'T.
To everyone else who actually read all of this, once again, sorry for the long winded nature of this post. Honestly I don't even know if there is a specific point I'm trying to make. But I appreciate all you kind souls who bothered to read this. 🖤