I got a PM from a forum member on the subject of ghosting and thought I would reply to the group as a whole.

Call me old-fashioned but I firmly believe in saying what I think. I virtually met a woman from Berkeley and at first, it looked like we might connect. As time went on, it became apparent to both of us that we did not share as much in common as we thought. Also, our schedules did not mesh. To that end, try as we might, it was a no go.

I liked her and would have enjoyed meeting her on my frequent trips to the Bay Area but alas. I was quite clear in my message why I felt the relationship was not working and that I was cheering for her to find someone local who was a better fit. She appreciated the honesty and candor. Matter of fact, she was thinking the same thing, that the relationship was not a good fit.

What I cannot cotton to is ghosting someone. Ghosting is literally where you stop responding to the person's emails/ text/ Telegram, etc. My view and the way I was raised is that it is proper to say what you are thinking.

There is no need to be rude about it but avoiding the addressing the issue or beating around the bush is not helpful either. Simply state that the relationship is not working and say why. Wish the person well and move on.

You control how you respond. And yes, folks may ghost you. That reflects them and their view on the world. It is not about you. Be courteous always.

Toasting your health as we move into the weekend.