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Throughout these lines, I share my experience going to psychotherapy in 2021 and the patterns I have noticed related to the mindset of psychologists nowadays forcing blue pilled ideas into the minds of the people and rejecting any red pill concept, as well as supporting all this with articles and the compilation of expert opinions on what to expect from a good psychologist.

I’M NOT GENERALIZING OR SAYING THAT ALL PSYCHOLOGISTS BEHAVE THIS WAY, JUST SHARING MY OPINION ON THE SUBJECT, I AM SURE THERE ARE MANY THERAPISTS OUT THERE WILLING TO IMPARTIALLY HELP OTHERS.

Introduction-my own experience

Long story somewhat short of how I ended up going to therapy. I invited a woman of my trust to be my witness at my legal marriage ceremony and she thought I was crazy and stupid (I wasn’t surprised, later on, I’ll be writing about how socially difficult is to get engaged at 18) so she sent me to the psychology department of a very well known university, a place where I could get psychological attention for a subsided price, I was reluctant to accept but I finally did, of course not because of that, but because I’ve been having problems with eating disorders for over 7 years, and I figured it would be good to get some help for the price they offered.

Great mistake.

Over the course of the couple of sessions I went to, the female therapist asked me several questions about my life, thoughts, my aspirations for the future, and habits, as soon as she realized I was a traditional values woman, who intended to get married soon, my anorexia disappeared for her and it was all about curing my traditional-wife-syndrome. Of course not directly, she let me know I had all my 20’s to get things done for me and by myself and then could start looking for a husband, that I needed a career before thinking of having a family, and that, in short, trad-wives were lazy women who wanted a man who satisfied all their needs; and that the picture I had of the ideal future was mediocre.

And this one is not just a crazy brainwashed woman that I randomly encounter, the person who recommended me to get psychological help had the exact same ideas. At my local middle school and high school, all (3) the female teachers that studied psychology wanted to indoctrinate us, young girls, into following the same mold: experimenting in our 20’s and then, when we are 30, figure everything out, feminism is a blessing and respecting our partners is overrated. I should have known that it was not going to be any different in a personal session.

What to expect in an objective and adequate therapy session

Here is a list of the basic aspects expected in a therapy session according to the guidelines for good psychotherapy dynamic.

• Respect for your worldview: it is natural for a person to not known or fully understand the ideas of another individual, that is why part of the questions should be oriented to know more about the details that make you see the world the way you do. These aspects include group identity, individual identity or self-concept, values, beliefs, and language.
• Non-judgmental: as presented on the Counselling in Northumberland website “usually described as unconditional positive regard. UPR means being willing to suspend your beliefs and values, not in an inauthentic way, but in a way which sees the world through the clients’ eyes”.
• Suggestions, no impositions: guiding the patient to get their thoughts, behaviors, and feelings in order, no miraculous advice or orders.
• Flexibility: the course of the therapy has to be modified according to the needs of the person and not encased in a mold for everyone,
• Trust: alliance, feeling comfortable with the dynamic and the person, must
• Boundaries: both the patient and therapist have to be aware of the difference between a professional and a friendship relationship to avoid misunderstandings.

Knowing this makes it easier to identify conflictive situations and when to stop a dynamic that is being unhealthy by violating any of these points.

The profile of the modern woman shoved down our throats

People don’t like to admit this, but the paths taken by societies always lead to “standardization” to say it somehow, it makes things easier, if we all thought the same way no problems would occur, sadly (and luckily for our sanity) this is impossible, but the formation of groups and subgroups is the closest thing we have, that is why when the majority behaves in a certain way, the tendency is to feel peer pressure until you fall into the same trend and mindset. This is how we imitate the actions and patterns of others, getting married at a certain age, having certain aspirations, and the idea of what being successful means; but not only that, people who are role models or who seem trustworthy in a very personal level have more influence than peers for people, especially when they are going through a vulnerable phase, take for example teachers and in this case, therapists.

Being aware of this standardization will help you understand what profile people expect you to have and how to avoid falling into that if you don’t want to do it.

Apparently, the traditional family and female roles are the worst that can happen to a person, and modern psychologists are not afraid to save us all

“An important point of difference between the traditional and modern families relates to the position of women. Formerly, the women occupied a very low position in the family. They were just slaves to men possessing none of their own individuality. They had no rights nor any freedom” This is the description given by the website Psychology Discussion of the difference between a traditional family and a modern family.

One of the most influential female psychologists of the 20th century, Betty Friedan, says that “women who ‘adjust’ as housewives, who grow up wanting to be ‘just a housewife,’ are in as much danger as the millions who walked to their own death in the concentration camps… they are suffering a slow death of mind and spirit.”

According to the APA, 74% of US career psychologists are women and 61% of American women identify themselves as feminists, I’m sure that a great percentage of the psychologists see themselves as such.

During an interview representing the APA, Debra Kawahara, Ph.D., an assistant psychology professor at the California School of Professional Psychology at Alliant International University and chair of the Div. 35 Task Force on Making Feminism Relevant. answered the question “How does feminism apply in psychology today?” saying “Professionally, it matters beyond just how it affects psychologists. Each person needs to think about how they, in their own way, would seek social justice for things like prejudice and inequality in the workplace and careers for women. It's changing things so the obstacles aren't there for our clients-making a difference in the daily lives of all people.”

We are not talking about just “feminist psychology” anymore and I am not saying that only psychologists share these points of view, but these are the people you disclose all your sorrows and concerns to and the people who are supposed to be there to help you find a solution to your problems, fully supported by the APA, and they even have a division for it.

Is it inevitable for therapists to force their points of view into our lives?

Like psychologist Cindy Trawinski says “No one is immune from bias, not even us therapists! Everyone has bias” The difference is when the individual is able to separate their personal thoughts from a professional context and act accordingly or decide to not continue with the sessions if this bias is too difficult to handle and set aside.

Training and education make psychotherapists able to separate their beliefs from their work, and there is plenty of capable professionals who can provide mental health attention to all kinds of people.

And yet again, is not about forcing, on our end, the red pill into the APA system or into any psychotherapist, that would be equally wrong, but there should be a consequence for those psychologists who, in any way, directly or indirectly try to indoctrinate their patients otherwise this discipline will be completely corrupted and destroyed sooner or later.

Conclusion (abstract)

The extreme popularization of feminism has gotten into the minds of the mental health sector, some people find it difficult to separate their beliefs from the therapy sessions, and some others, like many members of the APA purposely try to convert all females to feminism, encouraging vulnerable patients to not engage in long-term relationships at a young age and follow certain “empowering” behaviors that aren’t part of the original worldview of the subject. Being aware of all this will make you choose a therapist wisely if you need one.

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If you would like to read all the interviews, articles and definitions I talked about check the references out.