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This is the complete analysis of the popular phrase “I won’t settle for less than I deserve”, here I explain how this mindset leads women to never find a partner, the narcissism behind it, and how objectively knowing your value with your flaws and your qualities will allow you to not only have a partner but also to make him happy. I also explain what is what you actually deserve, the types of the thing you deserve and the difference between what you want and what you deserve, how to get what you want without anyone having to owe it to you, and how to deserve what you already have.

Brainwashing

Growing in the 2010s with 3rd wave feminism being a gospel and female “empowerment” the subplot of all lectures at school, I’ve witnessed how this phrase has stuck to the brains of women all over the western world even so that I hear it in redpilled and antifeminist spaces, it is sickening to observe the extent of the popularization of the mindset behind it, and before getting into the actual breakdown of it, I took the time to compile some of the most important points of the mentioned mindset:

- "I’ll take as much time as I need to find my perfect man”: women whose motto is this, believe that there’s always time for them to meet people and they will be worth as much or even more as before so why rushing through life? We all are going to live forever.

- "I’m worth whatever I say I am”: their worth as potential partners is based on the mental idea they have of themselves and no one can say otherwise.

-"What I want is what I deserve and I want a perfect person”: if their partners want perfection they have to be perfect. Period.

-"You don’t think the same? Why do you hate yourself so much?”: they think that objective opinions of oneself are clear signs of low self-esteem.

At this point you probably know where we are going...but let’s get right into the analysis.

What is what you deserve?

The meaning of “deserve” has been modified throughout the years, but here’s the real definition:

“to have earned or to be given something because of the way you have behaved or the qualities you have”

This means that what you deserve are the good or bad things that you have to receive according to what you’ve done or what you are. For a better understanding of what you deserve, I’ll classify them into 3.

-The things that you deserve inherently: these are all the things that you deserve simply because you exist, these are:

• Human rights: for example, you deserve a life free of torture, so if your partner physically punishes you, you don’t deserve it and you have to protect yourself or ask for protection.
• The laws of your country and state (or province): all the rules and laws that protect all citizens, for example, if your country grants you a lawyer because you’re going through a criminal trial, you deserve that lawyer.

-The things that you deserve as consequence: these are all the punishments, compensations, and prizes you must receive because of what you’ve done or what you haven’t, but, very important, you can’t annulate the things that a person inherently deserves to punish him/her. Examples of things you deserve as a consequence of your actions can be: if you got divorced, you deserve paying or receiving a pension or child support; If you steal things, you deserve going to jail; if you work you deserve your paycheck.

-The things that you deserve as an agreement: everything that you must receive because there was a previous agreement. People can’t read minds, if you spent 5 years with a guy and he decides to break up and you put your whole life in stand by for him to marry you at some point, he doesn’t owe you that, if you just hoped but never said anything, you don’t deserve that he stays with you. Or if you agree with your husband that you will live together forever but he decides to leave you, there’s no law that can protect you from that but you deserved him to stay based on a previous agreement.

Achieving what you want over what you deserve

So you’re probably thinking “oh then I don’t t deserve a guy that I like with all the characteristics that my ideal men have?” Well, no, but you surely can get what you want.

And getting what you want comes from what you can do to get it, we all are here to discuss the red pill dating strategy, the different ways you can get that special person to spend life with.

Wanting a kind, loving, and caring man isn’t something bad or unreachable, but wanting something means that you have to move, risk and make some effort to achieve it.

Having good self-esteem is believing that you can get what you want without anyone having to owe it to you

We are often told that if we don’t think we can wait for the perfect man to fall from the sky and beg on his knees for us, we have low self-esteem, but that statement is merely narcissistic. Narcissism hides lots of insecurities, it is painful and arrogant, and they will never admit they feel lonely or sad. When you have good and healthy self-esteem, not a low one, that makes you think that taking away your rights or respect is what you deserve or a high one; is trusting in your strategy, believing in yourself, having the confidence to make agreements with your partner, to communicate with the person you love, to take care of your body, to respect the person you spend your life with and not to ask him to buy you everything you want with a sad entitled attitude.

Having healthy self-esteem is looking after the well-being of your loved one without thinking that that is degrading you somehow, is knowing that the other person deserves things and actions too and you have to respect them. Giving another person, especially the person you like or love, the same treatment you want to receive, isn’t humiliating yourself, it is humility and the basic polite thing a person can do.

Deserving what you want and wanting what you deserve

And of course, wanting something and actually planning to reach it has its details. Your plan has to have 3 characteristics, it has to be reasonable, realistic, and coherent in time, place, and resources. If you’re planning on getting the perfect man or the perfect life with your current partner, it is very important that you analyze and objectively identify your qualities, flaws, and the moment of your life you’re living in right now.

For example, it is less likely for you to get a man if you have children or if you’re above 30, and you have to plan accordingly, the dating pool is quite something. If you want to have fun for a moment and ponder a little about your standards I recommend you taking the Female delusion test if there’s just a tiny probability of you getting the man of your dreams you should probably lower your standards, and remember that the perfect men aren’t the richest or the tallest, there are tons of characteristics that a person can have and that can complement yours.

If you already have a wonderful man by your side, make yourself worthy of deserving him and what he gives you, invest time in your partner, that doesn’t make you a tortured slave as many blue pilled women think.

Conclusion

Not believing in these fallacies will save you from being a spinster, from a lot of stress and bad decisions, knowing your worth in a healthy realistic way will help you build a beautiful relationship with the right person.

I would love to know what you all think, and if I made any mistakes, let me know too, thank you!

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