I'm extroverted and he is introverted. It's caused some strife in the past, but we are getting better. Most of it comes down to us having no clue how to grasp the other's perspective, since we don't even know the questions to ask.

We've got what he considers a maxed social calendar (yayyyyy spring) and can't cut anything out. He's been vaguely to intensely stressed on and off at work since about January.

I've been doing nearly all the cooking/cleaning/laundry lately... but that's never been something that really stresses him out, I don't think. I've cancelled as many plans/turned down as many offers as I can and haven't been instigating any myself. We've been going to the gym consistently lately and doing a lot better in terms of eating better food. I'm always available for affection and have been initiating more when I know he's in the mood, and haven't been asking for it as much either (if that makes sense... he's the gate keeper and I try to make it easy on him.) I've been spending time doing nothing with him, and I've also left him to himself as well.

We've talked about different stress prevention things (I've asked him for insight about what I should do to maintain my energy levels, and we've talked about his too.) I've asked him what I can do, or not do, to help him de-stress and he usually says there's nothing anyone can really do about it, he just needs "time to himself" but that's not even really helping enough.

What do you think I should try to do or not do? I'm trying to be proactive, this isn't really at critical mass or anything intense but I don't want it to get that way. If there's anything that makes me slightly nervous about our future together, it is this type of situation. Any ideas or anecdotes or critiques are very appreciated, short term or long term.

Update: Most of our conversation and my epiphanies are down in my comments to all the great advice given.

One thing that didn't come up in the comments that he and I discussed was sex. Even when it's mellow, it's a high energy interaction as far as our energy types are concerned. It's too much of an influx for him when he is needing to recharge, whereas for me... I can be trapped in between four white walls for weeks on end and only need one solid session to recharge to full capacity.

Another thing the comments helped me understand that he helped me see more clearly after conversing was that him recharging doesn't necessarily mean I need to not be around him. I can be sitting next to him for all he cares and he kind of would prefer that... the most important thing is that I NOT create/instigate/provide anything that will prompt him to think, make decisions, or shift his focus from whatever he is entrancing himself with to express all the energy he has taken in from the outside world.

Also, I've learned there is a real difference between him being stressed and being depleted. While they certainly often overlap and exacerbate one another, and while the way he behaves in both conditions are rather similar, and while managing both stress and depletion are similar, they are two very distinct things. Understanding that these are distinct is helpful for being supportive of him, obviously, but it has also really improved my view of him, my confidence in him, and my eagerness for our future in less than 24 hours.

Long story short, I know there is a lot we will have to learn but right now? I feel like we are invincible. Thanks, The Internets.