Hello RPW! I’ve been chatting with this guy for about 2 weeks, and we decided to be exclusively chatting a little under a week ago. He has a very demanding and intense job, which means that he doesn’t text very often.

I have said a few times that I understand if he won’t be able to text or message that day, but that I would appreciate him letting me know in the morning and saying like: “Hey, busy day today, won’t be able to message.” Or even just: “Busy day today.” Just something to get the point across. He hasn’t said that at all, but still doesn’t reply for almost the whole day, and will go over 12 hours with no communication. I’m not trying to nag him, but I would just like to know if he’s able to chat that day or not.

Am I going about it wrong? If so, how could I go about it differently? Because, being traditional and submissive towards my partner is really important to me, and I don’t know if maybe I’m being to abrasive? Are my expectations that he let me know if he can text or not unreasonable?

Thanks for your help and feedback!

Edited to add more context (I also put the context in response to another’s message): We are discussing him visiting in February (we’re doing long distance, and he has to travel overseas for work for a month and I’m not able to accompany him), and he is already discussing him wanting to be my husband, and wanting me as his wife. We do call, I think we’ve called 3 or 4 times, but each call tends to last at least a few hours.