My husband and I have been in a Hotwife relationship since we got married. We tend to keep our personal lives and our Hotwife lives separate, for privacy's sake. However, recently I was chatting with a friend, and the topic of a Hotwife was brought up.

He mentioned something that I always seemed to know, but never really concluded for myself. From the bull's perspective, meeting with a Hotwife is much more enjoyable than a friends with benefits, a girlfriend, a Tinder date, etc... Now, my friend knows nothing of my Hotwife status, so I was a bit startled to hear this random topic come up in conversation. Playing coy, I asked him for more information - help me understand his rationale.

My friend - well he is a bit of a man whore. I love him dearly ​but he is single, cute, successful, and gets around quite often. His favorite app is Tinder, and once tried to explain his system for scoring dates with pretty women (over my head). Well he explained that it takes a lot of effort and energy to find and maintain his revolving door of women. The swipes, the online games, the relationship building, the dates. And having a friend with benefits - well that's ideal but could get messy if things got too serious. A girlfriend - usually has the expectation of the future and commitment. Married woman - sure no fear of an attachment, but there's secrets, running around, last minute cancellations. Poor friend, woe is him.

Then he moved to his recent fling, a happily married hotwife. To him, the bull, it was much easier, effortless. No fear of ruining a friendship. No concern about attachment - she's already married. No running around - her husband typically will give his blessing. No commitment . Sure, you have to have a good rapport with one another - that's a given in any relationship. But his new hotwife knows what she wants and doesn't want. He was happy to play his part and help the couple with their lifestyle.

As I was listening to him, this revelation came to me. With our own hotwife experiences, these men have mostly been ideal. If they are one night stands, or ongoing fuck buddies, these bulls always knew this hotwife dynamic. They're never going to replace my husband. There's no expectation of meeting family or a Saturday date and movie night. Don't get me wrong, we've developed some great friendships along the way, but the friendship was built on the foundation of sex and hotwifing. The more experience the bull had, the easier it was for everybody involved.

Anyways, my friend and I concluded our enlightening chat, as he had to meet a new Tinder date for coffee. And I went to one of my bull's apartments to get my brains fucked out.