Part of why I play is to try new things. And part of why I love being a hotwife is because I’ve learned so many new things about myself along the way.

But there may be a catch22 here 😂

I was lucky enough to be with someone who was a master at something — that is one of the things I’ve realized turns me on the most...it’s partly the action(s) and partly just the way that they did things. I’ve been with many others and no one has done it in quite the same way - which was fine when I was seeing this lover. Variety is the spice of life, right? But...

I’m lucky to have unlocked that I love this thing, but now that my time with this person as a lover is over, it kind of sucks to not know if I’ve had the best of that and wonder if I will again.

That’s the hidden curse of all of this, isn’t it?

Can anyone else relate? Have you had a bull/third/partner/etc who was particularly good at something and may have spoiled it for everyone else (setting the bar very high)? I suppose this could apply beyond hotwife (but my husband was my only partner before hotwife, so that’s my lens) How did you deal with that? It’s not that I’m constantly thinking about this, but once I realized it — I’d hate to be disappointed with really good sex because it misses a particular element and I wonder if I will find it again other than through gwaudios and erotica lol