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I am 30s f and in a long term relationship with a 30s m. Our sexual relationship has been the most problematic part of our relationship (I’ve posted on the dead bedroom sub a lot about that).

Recently he has started seeing a therapist and they have discussed some of the issues around sex. He shared with their therapist that his first experience with intercourse was…not rape…but definitely he was coerced. They talked some about how that early experience could have impacted his sexual relationships after and even to this day.

Again I feel weird posting here but I was hoping to find people who may be able to offer some insight. Is it possible his aversion to sex comes from this experience? And if so what can I do to help him?

Having a sexual relationship with him is important to me but I don’t want to do anything that causes his pain.