New filters on the Home Feed, take a look!
view details
1
[24] [M4F] [Stockholm] [Sweden] I just want to lose my virginity and hopefully build some confidence
Post Flair (click to view more posts with a particular flair)
Author Summary
TjamTomjam is a male looking for a female in Sweden
Post Body

Hey there! I'm on mobile, so I apologise in advance for poor formatting!

My situation: So, after years of trying, and failing, to meet someone who I could build a relationship with through various apps and platforms, and generally not meeting a lot of compatible people in day to day life, my confidence is pretty low in regards to dating. For years I've wanted to meet someone who'd just make for a good friend where romantic and/or sexual feelings would develop from, but things haven't really gone that way, and now I'm feeling like I'm falling further and further behind the people around me. At this point I'm just tired of trying, and even if it sounds like I'm letting it wear me down a lot, it's really not. I'm pretty happy in life, and I've come to enjoy being single in a lot of aspects, even if I still feel lonely and really wish I could have someone special to cuddle at night or go to events together with from time to time. I also definitely worry too much about my lack of experience sometimes.

What I'm looking for: At this point I just want to meet someone who's in a similar situation to mine or who's willing to help virgins and inexperienced people practice. I don't expect anything more than something quick and casual, even though I'd absolutely love if it turned into something more. Fairly simply I just want to meet for a casual fika (coffee date for you non-Swedes), see if we click somewhat, and then help take care of eachother's needs. If we then end up playing video games together, become restaurant buddies, fwb, or anything else on top of that it'd just be a great bonus!

About me: I've never really been that great about talking about myself, I'm fairly introverted as a person so it doesn't really come that naturally haha. Regardless though, I'm 24, Swedish with typically Swedish looks (dirty blond hair, 172cm tall, 84kg. Chubby, but working on losing some weight). I can send pictures to those who want them later as we start talking for those who are curious!

I'm often described as nerdy, caring, goofy, open, cautious, friendly, and a little bit square. I'm essentially the dad friend of the group, but I guess that's just the image of me I've been told of, so you'd have to figure some out for yourself!

Ford those of you who have a lot of kinks you want to try or worry I might not be comfortable with; I'm open to try just about anything, and I have a lot of things I'd like to try for myself! However, I don't want to complicate my first time too much, and I don't want to pressure anyone into something they're not comfortable with. Case and point is that freaks and vanilla people alike can feel free and comfortable reaching out, as I'm open to any and all suggestions :)

Lastly, thank you for reading my post, and I hope someone might find my post at least a little intriguing. I understand if it's not sending the best message or whatever, but I hope some of you will still give me a chance!

And for those who are uncomfortable sending first messages because they don't know how to start a conversation, you can tell me what unexpected animal you're secretly, or not so secretly, obsessed with! I'm convinced everyone likes something like ravens, gibbons, or pythons a little bit more than as just "a cool animal", so tell me which one is your secret obsession!

Author
Account Strength
90%
Account Age
7 years
Verified Email
Yes
Verified Flair
No
Total Karma
9
Link Karma
8
Comment Karma
1
Profile updated: 5 days ago
Posts updated: 8 months ago

Subreddit

Post Details

Location
They Are
a male
Looking For
a female
We try to extract some basic information from the post title. This is not always successful or accurate, please use your best judgement and compare these values to the post title and body for confirmation.
Posted
9 months ago