A recent partner posted a success story, and someone asked me (half joking, I’m sure) to post my tips. I posted the below, and a muff owner suggested I make it a post. So here is a slightly revised version of my basic guide.

Please keep in mind that all women are different, and this may not appeal to everyone. It’s worked for me the vast majority of the time.

Before you even get down there, some thoughts:

Start slow. Don't dive straight to her clit. Touch her, smell her, kiss her (if agreed), run your fingers through her hair and along her body. Approach her patiently. You shouldn't be in a hurry to get between her legs

Also, things like lick the alphabet are garbage. You're just hoping that random motion is eventually going to get her there. It may, but it's not skillful.

The best thing you can do is to learn some female anatomy so you know what’s going on with her genitalia. There is SO much down there that's sensitive. Just concentrating on the clit would be like having just your penis's head stimulated, You'd be missing out on some very important and different sensations. The clitoris is much bigger than you think, her lips (inner and outer) are very sensitive.

When you first start, you should lick beginning at the bottom near the posterior labial commissure (bottom of the vaginal opening) and go all the way up to her anterior labial commissure, where the clitoris goes under the skin and into her pubic mound. Stimulate ALL of her.

I go from the bottom to the top, very slowly and very lightly, and then back down. You can spend 5-10 minutes doing this to warm her up, but eventually you want to concentrate on the area between the top of vaginal opening to the very top of her clit. Your fingers can concentrate on the vaginal opening and the G-Spot, but that's a different class.

In the next stage I like to stop at the top of the clit, double back to the bottom of the clit, and then go all the way up. So, from the top of the vaginal opening, just over the clit, back down to where the clit starts, and the all the way up to the pubic mound. Again, so slowly.

Keep in mind that every woman is different and you have to be intuitive. Some love direct clitoral stimulation, but other find it too sensitive.

By going slowly (slower than you think you should) you can gather vital information about where she likes to be licked most. You can increase the intensity by giving that spot twice as much attention as others, but keep it light and slow. Pause at that spot and give your tongue a little wiggle - slowly. Put your tongue there and barely move it. Like imperceptibly! They love that.

You can do this for 15-30 minutes and keep her at a plateau of pleasure before intensifying things. You’ll learn more the longer you sit here, and she should be eager to ramp thing up.

From here it's all about her responses. You need to use the information you’ve gathered to meet her where she needs you to. In general, I think people go too fast and use too much pressure, especially to start. Make her come with the least pressure and slowest speed it takes, and she'll have a longer build up and a more explosive orgasm.

That said, some women need much, much more than that. Many love to have their clit sucked, and others even like you to suck it through your teeth. I cannot stress this enough: start gently if you do this! You can always add more pressure if she needs it.

As she starts to build to an orgasm, don’t speed up. See if she’ll cum while you’re staying at that pace that’s working to get her there. It’s really hard not to get more intense as she does, but going too fast and too hard could actually reduce her sensitivity and make it harder to cum. Slowly increase, note her reaction, and repeat as needed.

You may overshoot, and she may tell you slower or softer. Don’t let it affect your ego. You can’t know, and her telling you what works is the best thing that can happen.

Ultimately, you need to find out the following things

1. ⁠Where to lick her
2. ⁠How much pressure to use
3. ⁠How fast (or as I would prefer to say, how SLOW)
4. ⁠A rhythm that works for her

Keep focused on what you're doing at all times, because at some point she may say something like, "right there!" "don't stop that" or "yes, THAT'S it" By the old gods and the new, keep doing that, whatever it is.

It's easy to miss exactly what that was. And since you're going entirely by feel, you may even lose it. Don't worry, just go back to what you were doing before she told you you'd found that magic motion, and you'll find it again.

I can lose my erection at this point because I'm so intent on what I'm doing, but as she starts to cum it quickly returns.

Remember, making her cum quickly is not the goal. Making her cum harder than she ever has before is the goal. And that that takes time