Hey, RAOMD!

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I want to start of by saying I'm B, a Los Angeles based Redditor who's had multiple successes because of this sub! You can find reviews/success stories the Redditors I've met with here! Some include more than just text, so, beware if that is not what you want!

This is essentially going to be a guide/advice post for guys who have yet to have their first meetups. If any other men or women want to add on, please comment!

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I'm going to try to break up the post into 3 categories, The Post, The Message, and The Meetup. Each will be split up into their own subcategories. At the time of writing this, I'm not sure if I'll do bullet points, or write out coherent sentences, but bare with me lol

The Post

Your Posts

It goes without saying that you should tailor your post to find the kind of partner you're looking for. Your title should be short enough that it's easy to read at a glance while scrolling but also long enough that it builds interest. The meat and potatoes of your post should be well thought out, and aim to almost tell a story. You want to describe yourself, fun facts about you. Everyone on here will be posting, you need to stand out! Make a post that shows what kind of person you are haha Also, make sure to make it clear what you're looking for. However, don't come off sounding needy or thirsty. We, especially women on here, get it, you want to give oral. But, that doesn't mean you have to sound like a damn animal in your title or post lol Examples of this would be having water/sweat emojis, or colorfully describing what you're going (well, what you want) to do to them (note, this is coming from a lot of discussions with other Redditors).

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Their Posts

This goes without saying, but please read a Redditor's ENTIRE POST. Don't just message somebody because they're in your area. Read their posts and see what they're looking for. Generally, people will have requirements of what they want! Don't message somebody if you don't meet ALL of their requirements because it literally just wastes their time. Imagine how many messages women get after posting on here. We want a community that promotes good, safe, and fun meetups! We should all be encouraging to one another, regardless if we have successes or not. Also, if you thought to yourself "well, their requirements are too high", then don't message them OR become the kind of person people want to meet up with! Aim to make yourself somebody others want to meet with, and interpret that as you will. And also, people have many different tastes, don't think to yourself you'll never find anyone, of course you will!

The Message

Alright, so, you've found a post of somebody in your area, and you meet their requirements, now what? Well, it's time to message them! Some rules that I have that I always follow are to add my age and city that i'm located in, as well as something witty or interesting in the title. People will get TONS of messages, have an eye catching title that sparks interest. Now, for the body of the message. Don't just jump to into things and start describing what you want to do to them. No. Sound and be human, talk about yourself or make a joke! Also, DO NOT send one liners like "hey" because those will get you nowhere. Also, make sure to add a description of yourself and add things like whether you're DDF or not (also, get fucking tested. meeting strangers can be fucking terrifying, so practice good safe sex practices and get tested), whether you can host or not (important, if you can't host, don't offer a car. this isn't how you want to treat people. get a hotel if you have to! I've paid for rooms and half also gone halfers on rooms with people, it's always different). Lastly, include a fucking picture. Yes, this is scary for everyone, but you want to make sure you make the Redditor you're speaking to feel safe and comfortable, and including a pic of you will definitely help.

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The Meetup

First thing's first, anybody and everybody has the right to call off a meetup at any point in time, EVEN after agreeing to one. Everyone in this sub should be promoting consent and safe meetups. If somebody cancels on you, don't reply with anger. Life happens, people get scared, and that's okay. Don't ever guilt somebody into doing something they don't want to!

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Okay, back to the meetup, From here, it's super simple! You meetup lol I would always suggest meeting in a public place and just chatting and getting to know one another in person. BOTH of you will be nervous, whether you show it or not, so just talk and keep it friendly. Remember, you both want to feel comfortable. Consent and safe sex practices are always a necessity. Once you're both ready, have a good time! Take your time! Again, guys, you're not entitled to anything more than a muff dive, nor are you entitled to anything at all. Again, somebody can say 'no' and that's that. Respect others!

Okay. So, I don't really know how to end this lol I hope everything I've added here helps, even just a little bit. If I think of anything else I'll add it in an edit. For now, good luck muffdiving, everyone :D

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-B.

Edit1: by picture, that DOES NOT mean a dick pic. NEVER SEND A DAMN UNSOLICITED DICK PIC. No matter how big small nice or ugly your dick is, that’s not gonna get you anywhere with a first message. Respect one another.

Also, don’t do what somebody in the comments mentioned and look for somebody’s phone number online. I shouldn’t have to explain but this is fucking creepy and insane. It leaves people with bad experiences and makes them feel vulnerable and unsafe.