Antidepressants are a bitch. SSRIs, to be precise, are out here making it difficult for me to “achieve orgasm.” Sometimes I just can’t cum, not because of something you’re doing wrong or not doing. But I’ve been made to feel bad by guys who only measure “success” by the quantity or speed of orgasm.

I read the recent NYT article about the gender "orgasm gap," and I really appreciate that they quote Dr. Emily Nagoski, who says, "Orgasm is not the measure of a sexual encounter. Pleasure is the measure of a sexual encounter.” 🔥🔥🔥

Would I love to cum a million times for you? Yes! Duh!

But since my meds work for me and depression isn’t great for the ol’ libido, I’ve adopted an “it’s the journey, not the destination” approach to my pleasure. I’m not waiting to get off, I’m enjoying every moment and every sensation. I am so so happy if I’m present and embodied and feeling good… especially receiving unreciprocated oral, which is my all-time favorite activity.

So what do you think? Is it crazy to pursue RAOMD if I can’t climax easily? Or can you get gratification from pleasing regardless? Would you like to join me in a longer and less goal-oriented experience? 😏

If so, I am: 37, a fat babe/a BBW, white, 5'8", with blue eyes, blonde hair, busty af, a trimmed bush, and the thickest thighs you've ever had the pleasure of being clamped between.

As for you? I really like smart boys. I like boys on the submissive side of the spectrum, or a vanilla dynamic is fine. I like a big smile, I've got a thing for glasses, and I prefer no facial hair or a tidy beard/scruff. 28 .

As for the logistics? 1. I insist we meet in public for a vibe check. 2. I take my hygiene and sexual health seriously and expect you do too. I'm recently tested and STI free. 3. If you're in a relationship, you need to lead with that! I'm only interested if it's open/ENM.

Send me a chat or message here on Reddit. I appreciate your thoughtful reply. 😘