With this new rule, and seeing the comment in the META post about divers who don't want reciprocation, can we talk about the non-reciprocal experience from the divers' view, so that the women we're with can better understand our motivations?

This just how I feel about it, and why I don't want reciprocation. I would love to hear what's going on with other divers.

The first thing I want to say is that for me it’s not because I’m somehow broken. It’s not about ED, I don’t have trouble reaching orgasm, etc

I have a great appreciation for just how much women can experience pleasure in ways that dwarf my own. In the course of exploring this pleasure gap, I found my own satisfaction and interest in sex grew the more I focused on pleasing my partner. I also found that having my own orgasm at the end greatly detracted from my overall experience. The moment I came, all that wonderful energy and warmth I’d just created vanished, and often I’d immediately regret trading it for a brief orgasm.

For me, the muff dive has become about exploring her potential for pleasure, knowing that I can never truly experience it other than through her. It gives me such joy see it and be a part of it, and I want to hang onto those feelings even after she's satisfied.

Admittedly, I now find women who are willing to receive while opting not to give to be a huge turn on. Probably in part because they they've been so hard to find, but also because it now seems like the natural order.