(Standard disclaimer: I likely won’t respond to new messages if you’re looking to meet up. My bandwidth for meeting new folks is low. I mostly post these to keep the F4F dream alive. My DMs are also open for any women who want advice on navigating WLW spaces.)

I’m back, and I’m wondering if this subreddit is the closest we sapphics have to Grindr. Or would that be Lex? Either way I’m glad for this space.

I have a previous F4F success post here and am still spicy friends with the woman I described then. (For those interested in no-reciprocation stories, my old post describes one! This time there was a lot of reciprocation happening. A lot.)

For background, I’m a married bi/pan woman in an open relationship. I was traveling for work recently and, at the last minute, decided to roll the dice on making a connection in the Bay Area.

So I posted in #SanFrancisco, offering to go down on a woman with no reciprocation requested. I didn’t get as much interest initially. I wondered if it was the limited timeframe or if Southern California (where I typically post) really is an unusual hotbed for random cunnilingus meetups (as a previous poster suggested in his own success post).

No women had reached out by the night I was available, so I went out with friends instead. While I was out, I got messages and a picture from a verrrrry cute woman. My friends, a gay couple in an open relationship, were very amused by how flustered I was and my struggles with flirting. By this point I was too tired to meet up, but I made plans to grab drinks with the woman who messaged me on another night. I travel to this area frequently so I figured it was still worth the vibe check.

A few nights later, we met up for drinks at one of the sapphic-focused bars in the city. The vibes were immediately vibing. She was funny, thoughtful, creative, soooo hot and had a style that is very much kryptonite for my bi ass. (Shorter hair, glasses, print button up 🥵.) We talked about our experiences with queer sex and how we both love going down on women. We talked about how neither of us has figured out flirting, so we just end up being very direct with people. As we were closing out our tab, she said “well on the subject of being direct I think you’re hot and would like to see you again.” I returned the vibes, we kissed in the bar and a little more in the rain outside, and I left that date beaming.

The next time I was in Oakland for work, we planned to meet up both evenings for dinner and hot gay sex. And y’all, the sex was very gay and very hot. (Both figuratively and literally: the AC was not working in my hotel.) We went multiple rounds both nights, taking turns making the other person cum. We kept going down on each other; used fingers, tongues, toys; we kissed, licked, and sucked all over. We took cuddle breaks and then cuddled some more when we were tapped out sexually.

Having two nights in a row was pretty great because it gave us some time to better learn each other’s bodies. We also communicated very openly about how each of our bodies work. By the end we were joking about being sent to another plane of existence with each orgasm. I genuinely enjoy being a top with some partners and don’t always need reciprocation, but it was fun to max out the vers dynamic with someone who loves giving and receiving cunnilingus as much as I do. Now I just have to hope for more trips to the Bay.